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I wouldn't go for the same reasons you listed for not wanting to go.
However, having done kinda the same thing wedding wise (although I didn't invite/not invite anyone, I knew no one would be able to go) your brother in law should not be offended or surprised by the responses he gets.
Short notice means expenses will be higher, plus the rest of my fam cannot come, so it's a burden for my partner to remain here alone with the kids while I go to a party...especially with short notice.
The reason I'd give it simple "too short notice, can't make it".
I don't know if it is as much weird as it is inconvenient. The wording on the invitation was weird though. No, I wouldn't go, unless I was close with my sibling and absolutely didn't want to miss the wedding. I don't know how your husband feels about this, so I think his feelings have to be considered.
I do think it is his choice--to go or not to go. His family's pressure might be too much for him to withstand. My advice to you--stay out of it.
Probably not. All the reasons given so far are sensible. Destination weddings are usually a huge expense and inconvenience to guests, so your brother-in-law really shouldn't be surprised that your husband can't drop everything and attend. If they live reasonably close, I'd probably offer to throw them a party when they were back in town, but not if they're being jerks.
To exclude spouses is simply rude. I would not go, my reason being that it's simply too short notice and that my spouse and I attend events like this together. If they are offended that you won't be in attendance, that's their problem. Had they given ample notice and been more inclusive of the guest list, perhaps more people would be willing to attend.
It doesn't sound like they're being very welcoming from the get-go, and if you can't afford it, it's a no-brainer.
Agree with the above and everyone else's answers. A spouse of an immediate family member is immediate family. Your husband is right, this is essentially a non invite from his perspective.
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