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So we moved closer to my wife's family and we are invited to family events. As her husband, the invitation also includes me. I am part of the package as her daughter/sister's husband. My wife is invited because she is family and they think it is the right thing to do. (She is family.)
But the strange thing is there is no real conversation or attempts to be friendly once we arrive. They treat me like I don't exist and my wife is not really acknowledged or respected. The mood is oddly anti social. There is very little conversation at the dinner table. Any attempts at bringing up conversation topics are usually either ignored or die a quick death. No one in the family seems to like each other and act like they don't want to be there.
Should we continue to attend these events because, well... it's family?
They treat me like I don't exist and my wife is not really acknowledged or respected. The mood is oddly anti social. There is very little conversation at the dinner table. Any attempts at bringing up conversation topics are usually either ignored or die a quick death. No one in the family seems to like each other and act like they don't want to be there.
I don't know how old you are, but if you haven't realized this by now, you may in your 40s when you start feeling twinges of a midlife crisis: Life is too short for that.
Maybe you and your wife could drop by for limited amounts of time on major holidays if you are invited, in a "making the rounds" kind of way that implies you also have other people to visit that day, but other than that, I wouldn't make too much of an effort. If your family is out of town, you can also alternate holidays with visits to them.
In other words, just do the bare minimum necessary to remain in the will.
I know that feeling,, but what I did just forget every ones else, if they talk to me or say hi to me , respect disrespect what ever , I enjoy the food and drinks and I keep my self busy with filling my tummy and tasting stuff so..... At the end no one knew where I was, or what I did ,why I was there so in case if you need a tip saying so. life is short eat delicious stuff before too late Just saying.
Nope, when in laws are unfriendly and dont really want to talk to you, it's better to not associate with them , just dont go, why visit them if your not even welcome?
they have already shown they dont really like you and dont respect you, dont waste your time.
So we moved closer to my wife's family and we are invited to family events. As her husband, the invitation also includes me. I am part of the package as her daughter/sister's husband. My wife is invited because she is family and they think it is the right thing to do. (She is family.)
But the strange thing is there is no real conversation or attempts to be friendly once we arrive. They treat me like I don't exist and my wife is not really acknowledged or respected. The mood is oddly anti social. There is very little conversation at the dinner table. Any attempts at bringing up conversation topics are usually either ignored or die a quick death. No one in the family seems to like each other and act like they don't want to be there.
Should we continue to attend these events because, well... it's family?
Just need to point out that you are family too. If you and they don't acknowledge this, it may be part of the problem.
You already have multiple threads on this same subject. How many more responses do you need ?
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Depends on how many alter ego usernames
Apparently, an endless supply.
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Just saying.
