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Old 04-28-2016, 08:53 PM
 
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I'm a male and I don't really understand marriage/weddings. Frankly, I don't understand why people get married.

I don't want to deal with the fuss. Family members are supporting the wedding but it seems like it's making them a little too chaotic and I want to avoid this. I'm cool with my brother but it's not like we hang out. So I'm thinking about avoiding the wedding. I support their marriage and I'm fine being there for them after the wedding.
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Old 04-28-2016, 08:58 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I'm a male and I don't really understand marriage/weddings. Frankly, I don't understand why people get married.

I don't want to deal with the fuss. Family members are supporting the wedding but it seems like it's making them a little too chaotic and I want to avoid this. I'm cool with my brother but it's not like we hang out. So I'm thinking about avoiding the wedding. I support their marriage and I'm fine being there for them after the wedding.
It's not about you and whether you understand his choice or "want to deal with the fuss."

I don't think it's ok.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:05 PM
 
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No, it's not ok. And if you choose not to attend, they may not be there for you afterwards.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:09 PM
 
Location: Denver 'burbs
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It's not about you and whether you understand his choice or "want to deal with the fuss."

I don't think it's ok.
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No, it's not ok. And if you choose not to attend, they may not be there for you afterwards.

Yep to both of these.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:12 PM
 
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Suck it up. Go to the wedding. It is one day.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:12 PM
 
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Go to your brother's wedding - he may only get married once, and you need to be there.

When my sister (my one sibling) got married years ago I made a big effort to be there by driving cross-country. And, I'm glad I did.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:12 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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You can decline the RSVP but youll have to answer as to why.
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:13 PM
 
Location: in a parallel universe
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I'm a male and I don't really understand marriage/weddings. Frankly, I don't understand why people get married.

I don't want to deal with the fuss. Family members are supporting the wedding but it seems like it's making them a little too chaotic and I want to avoid this. I'm cool with my brother but it's not like we hang out. So I'm thinking about avoiding the wedding. I support their marriage and I'm fine being there for them after the wedding.
No offense, but those are the lamest excuses I've ever heard.

What's the real reason you don't want to go?
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:23 PM
 
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Oh for crying out loud... consider it just another party and try to have a good time. Jeez...what the heck is there to understand?
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Old 04-28-2016, 09:43 PM
 
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You should go to the wedding, I'm sure that he would want you to be there. He's your brother, you should care more about him being happy than your beliefs about Marriage and Weddings.
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