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I have a cat myself. Khloe was a pregnant stray rescued from the streets on a frigid night several years ago. She's been with me during the ups and downs - when my wife left, Khloe comforted me in the days after. She is very loving and affectionate.
I'm trying to pursue a second career. I'm going to a workshop tomorrow evening and trying to learn as much as possible. I'm hoping to make money out of this.
It's a Saturday afternoon, I'm sitting home watching college football (Go Clemson!) and missing a loved one or two who's long passed away. For those who aren't married or in relationships, and live alone, do you feel lonely? And what do you do when feeling so?
I have been playing a whole lot of chess, FWIW, though they're not the most sociable folks they are better than nothing.
It's a Saturday afternoon, I'm sitting home watching college football (Go Clemson!) and missing a loved one or two who's long passed away. For those who aren't married or in relationships, and live alone, do you feel lonely? And what do you do when feeling so?
Aww, hugs OP.
I can empathize.
I've struggled with loneliness most of my adult. Right now I do live alone and am not in a relationship. Most days are better than others. But I've more or less learned to suppress the loneliness and find ways to fulfill my quiet hours. I join local volunteer outreach programs, I go to a local bookstore, I call a friend, I someties meet people on meetup.com, etc, etc.
To the people on here who write--when I moved to where I am and didn't know anyone, I found two writers groups on Meetup. One was more up my alley than the other, and I've been attending now for years. Get lots of encouragement in my project, and I've read and critiqued some interesting stuff.
The one thing that hasn't been mentioned is volunteering. Since MG passed away a few months ago, I've been busy with the details of his estate. That will soon be coming to an end, and there is an offer for the house.
The nights and weekends are my loneliest. In the morning, I'm getting ready for work, so my mind is busier. But on my way home from work tonight, for example, I was wondering what I was going to do with myself. I planned on raking more leaves, but because someone thinks turning the clocks back and forth (depending on the season) is a good idea, it is now dark when I get home, so raking was out.
Sometimes, I walk around home improvement or office supply stores because I have more enjoyment there than at a girly handbag store (I know, I'm weird). Oh, but getting back to my point, I have decided to volunteer for Wreaths Across America. It won't keep me busy weeks in and weeks out, but it's important to me, and I almost can't wait to do it. I want to start making a difference, no matter how small.
When I first moved back here, I volunteered at a place that took donated food and repackaged it for folks who were down on their luck. I thoroughly enjoyed that as well. And I tend to choose charities that I won't feel that I have to "lock in" specific days or times.
What I'm saying is that the OP isn't alone with those feelings, and volunteering is another option.
When genuine loneliness hits....I acknowledge it. Then start journaling. Sometimes I find it puts things in perspective.
Sure volunteering does get the positive attributes flowing, then I realize I am avoiding the reality. That the person whom I miss is gone. So its sometimes okay to sit with that Lonely space and learn from it. Made me appreciate those whom are still valued and do keep in touch.
Blessings and strength be yours when in that moment.
When genuine loneliness hits....I acknowledge it. Then start journaling. Sometimes I find it puts things in perspective.
Sure volunteering does get the positive attributes flowing, then I realize I am avoiding the reality. That the person whom I miss is gone. So its sometimes okay to sit with that Lonely space and learn from it. Made me appreciate those whom are still valued and do keep in touch.
Blessings and strength be yours when in that moment.
Yep, I think it's good to feel lonely, because it gives time to take stock of different areas of life.
I am pathetically uncreative (I guess I just made up a word), so I keep busy with working around the house (something always needs to be fixed, painted or cleaned).
There are days when I've had enough of most humans, so like others, reading (old-fashioned, real books for me) is a favorite to-do.
Yep, I think it's good to feel lonely, because it gives time to take stock of different areas of life.
I am pathetically uncreative (I guess I just made up a word), so I keep busy with working around the house (something always needs to be fixed, painted or cleaned).
There are days when I've had enough of most humans, so like others, reading (old-fashioned, real books for me) is a favorite to-do.
I like to read engrossing books, or if the weather is nice, get outside and bask in nature. Sometimes I'll take a drive farther out in the country to favorite spots I know (like a really cool pond with a great waterfall), or even strike out for a new location just to see what I find. I never feel lonesome when I'm observing nature!
we are born alone and we die alone,,,,, try to enjoy the path in between
with the internet their are many many activity groups..... and on facebook you can make up all the pages you want
whether you enjoy cribbage. scrabble, poker, walks,,,,make up a facebook page and seek likes/friends and guess what??? you will find many activity "companions" your age .
golf and fishing would take up much of my time
at the golf club I go to many single guys that love to play
life is a frame of mind.....frame it full
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