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What if they break the chair, hurt themselves and are on the floor? How will you get them UP once they are down and injured?
Can you ask the person to bring a chair with them?
This is not about being PC or "sensitive". This is a real issue.
That would be the equivalent of asking them not to sit on your furniture. The important thing as a host, is to have a place where they can sit. Since OP raises this as a concern, this person probably visits relatively often. Might be worth the investment in a seat that makes everyone feel better.
What if they break the chair, hurt themselves and are on the floor? How will you get them UP once they are down and injured?
Can you ask the person to bring a chair with them?
This is not about being PC or "sensitive". This is a real issue.
"Can you ask the person to bring a chair with them?"
Come on, you have to be joking!
While the OP did not say who the family member was it was clear that it was someone who visits on a regular basis. Can you imagine telling your mother or father or sister or brother or your spouse's family member, "Hey, you are too damn fat! You need to bring your own chair each and every time that you want to visit in my house."
While my mother was still able to travel a little when she was physically challenged enough to need a cane or walker (long, long before she became bedridden with severe rheumatoid arthritis) she was a very, very occasional visitor in the homes of her adult children (we all lived a long drive away). She needed a specific height (not too low) and type of chair (sturdy with arm rests), like a captain's chair, to be able to safely get out of with minimal help from others.
Even though her visits during that time were rare (perhaps once or twice in that five year period) ALL four of her children either purchased, or borrowed from a friend, a suitable chair for our mother for our homes when she visited. We didn't say "Hey Mom, if you need a 'special chair' you have to bring it yourself or just don't come to visit." we made sure that she knew that she was welcomed.
Sheesh! The OP did not say that this is a stranger or guest who came only one time, but a loved family member who visits on a regular basis.
BTW, if the person does fall on the floor, it is possible that you would have to call the paramedics to assist in getting the person up, to a safer chair, and to check out that they are not injured.
Last edited by germaine2626; 11-30-2016 at 08:22 AM..
you worry about chair getting break?? Not the health of that obese person from 600 pounds that means 272 KG why don't you bring them for a long walk instead inviting to your kitchen. Learn to love people enjoy the moments not things. OP where did you buy the chairs?
One is a chair and the other is a person. Reorder your priorities about the importance of each.
so if I have 4-6 matching chairs and that person breaks one I have to spend $$$$$ to replace 6 chairs because they might not sell the same chairs anymore?
I would rather not invite that person.
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Not the health of that obese person from 600 pounds that means 272 KG why don't you bring them for a long walk instead inviting to your kitchen. Learn to love people enjoy the moments not things. 
OP where did you buy the chairs?
