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So brief history is that I was always the one who was better in school for as long as I can remember and got into a good University while he had to stay back and go to a city college. I never thought much about it, he was never on my radar nor did I even care. Just consumed with my own life. Hardly ever talk to him. Well my relative got into medical school and rubbed it in my face while we were drinking. We are both the same age. I graduated a year early and he graduated after. I moved back home after graduation. I decided to take couple of years off, work to figure out my life. My grades weren't exactly good either since school was pretty hard about a 3.2. Not sure if medicine is what I want to do. I know for him his parents are very pushy. Saying I should be a doctor to me and other nephews.
We were drinking one time and he starts spewing how he is "better" than me now. How he had so much **** on him from parents cause I was doing better than him. I moved away from home, went to go a good school... just lot of pent up stuff that I never even knew about on his side. I was like wtf? He starts asking me what my gpa was in high school, sat score, from back then, my grades in college. To me it is so petty, but he is basically rubbing his "success" in my face while we were drinking. I am like congrats man... I am more calm or quiet. So just let him talk. Now that I got home I am thinking wtf just happened and now I am getting pissed, since I see his true colors. like wtf. Seems like a difference in personalities where I am a type B and he is type A. Really competitive, type A gunner in college. The people that I tend to avoid in undergrad. Want to hear your thoughts.
You sound pretty high strung and competitive yourself with this post.
how so? I mean I am kind of pissed because I am at a vulnerable stage in my life right now since I am pretty lost on what I want to do and he is basically kicking me while I am down.
how so? I mean I am kind of pissed because I am at a vulnerable stage in my life right now since I am pretty lost on what I want to do and he is basically kicking me while I am down.
Is that what he was doing, or was he admitting to you that he felt like he could NOT compete with you back then and that his parents put pressure on him by comparing his efforts to yours???
Is there a chance you are being overly sensitive because you feel like "for once" you are not the one doing better (which it sounds like you always kept track of), so you're reading into his actions?
how so? I mean I am kind of pissed because I am at a vulnerable stage in my life right now since I am pretty lost on what I want to do and he is basically kicking me while I am down.
Do you feel that was his intention or was he just relating his own side of things to you as they related to the topic of your conversations?
Is that what he was doing, or was he admitting to you that he felt like he could NOT compete with you back then and that his parents put pressure on him by comparing his efforts to yours???
Is there a chance you are being overly sensitive because you feel like "for once" you are not the one doing better (which it sounds like you always kept track of), so you're reading into his actions?
Hmm I don't think that is accurate statement. I never really kept track of it nor did I even pay attention to him. Nor did I ever rub it in his face like he is doing it to me.
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