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In a last ditch effort I'd tell her kids, but it most likely won't do anything but **** her off at you. IMHO she's a grown woman and can do what she wants. If you don't like the life she is leading than don't be friends with her anymore. She obviously doesn't care what you think anyway!
As a person with a background in psychology, I'd say she is looking for affirmation she is still attractive. But in an unhealthy way. As her friend, you should try and show her better ways to achieve this. It could be going to yoga, dressing up sexy but not slutty and having a night out, just being there for her and telling her she's beautiful as is. But she sounds like she is getting into some questionable situations. That's not okay for a mature woman with children to look after. You can be there to help and support but at the end of the day... it's up to her. We all age, we all get old. Hold her hand and show her a positive way, that is being a true friend. If you value this friendship then you will endure it and give her the harsh truths. If she cannot accept them, walk away. She may need help that is beyond your means... if she cannot get it herself that's not your fault. Your life is your own. You deserve positive friends and if she is dragging you down you deserve it to yourself to leave the relationship. But give it the time it deserves. Miniskirts left me at 30. But now at 36 I feel sexier than I did at 20. It's all relative.
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As a person with a background in psychology, I'd say she is looking for affirmation she is still attractive. But in an unhealthy way. As her friend, you should try and show her better ways to achieve this. It could be going to yoga, dressing up sexy but not slutty and having a night out, just being there for her and telling her she's beautiful as is. But she sounds like she is getting into some questionable situations. That's not okay for a mature woman with children to look after. You can be there to help and support but at the end of the day... it's up to her. We all age, we all get old. Hold her hand and show her a positive way, that is being a true friend. If you value this friendship then you will endure it and give her the harsh truths. If she cannot accept them, walk away. She may need help that is beyond your means... if she cannot get it herself that's not your fault. Your life is your own. You deserve positive friends and if she is dragging you down you deserve it to yourself to leave the relationship. But give it the time it deserves. Miniskirts left me at 30. But now at 36 I feel sexier than I did at 20. It's all relative.
Well, for once and for all, today I did talk to her. As all here stated: her life, her decisions. I just said that I couldn't deal with this anymore. Take care! Got in my car and left with not another word.
She's been texting me several times - even called me. I ignored. "What's wrong?" "What's going on?" "Rick, why are you ignoring me?" I'm too old for the high school bull****!
I just need to break and socialize with other people!
Well, for once and for all, today I did talk to her. As all here stated: her life, her decisions. I just said that I couldn't deal with this anymore. Take care! Got in my car and left with not another word.
She's been texting me several times - even called me. I ignored. "What's wrong?" "What's going on?" "Rick, why are you ignoring me?" I'm too old for the high school bull****!
I just need to break and socialize with other people!
I applaud you for taking this route, most guys are far too weak to do it and mean it. I hope you don't slide back in and regale us with more of her silly 'I Need Attention' antics a couple weeks from now.
As a person with a background in psychology, I'd say she is looking for affirmation she is still attractive. But in an unhealthy way. As her friend, you should try and show her better ways to achieve this. It could be going to yoga, dressing up sexy but not slutty and having a night out, just being there for her and telling her she's beautiful as is. But she sounds like she is getting into some questionable situations. That's not okay for a mature woman with children to look after. You can be there to help and support but at the end of the day... it's up to her. We all age, we all get old. Hold her hand and show her a positive way, that is being a true friend. If you value this friendship then you will endure it and give her the harsh truths. If she cannot accept them, walk away. She may need help that is beyond your means... if she cannot get it herself that's not your fault. Your life is your own. You deserve positive friends and if she is dragging you down you deserve it to yourself to leave the relationship. But give it the time it deserves. Miniskirts left me at 30. But now at 36 I feel sexier than I did at 20. It's all relative.
He's not a friend though. He is a man who wants her romantically and is bitter that she goes with other men and doesn't want him. He's not the one to be "helping" her.
Well, for once and for all, today I did talk to her. As all here stated: her life, her decisions. I just said that I couldn't deal with this anymore. Take care! Got in my car and left with not another word.
She's been texting me several times - even called me. I ignored. "What's wrong?" "What's going on?" "Rick, why are you ignoring me?" I'm too old for the high school bull****!
I just need to break and socialize with other people!
You enjoy drama.
What you should have done is after your talk, just shrugged your shoulders and said "OK" and than just do the slow fade. If you really were done with her, but you don't want that.
You make a scene and leave with a dramatic exit, and you wonder why she is texting you?
You enjoy this.
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