I sent an old photo to my decades ago ex-boyfriend (girlfriend, person)

[texan2yankee]

All my friends were mortified. I'm curious if you agree with them.

I started tossing out boxes of old pictures a few weeks ago. I threw out tons of old pics. The pictures I thought each person in the picture would enjoy of themselves, I mailed them. Some were three or four decades old. All my old friends who receive the pictures called and said they appreciated that I sent them!

I sent my long-ago boyfriend in college a photo taken with his college roommates. My girlfriends all thought it was inappropriate. I didn't think about it being a problem. I wasn't in the picture. I didn't put a return address on the mail....just a note enclosed with the picture saying I thought he would enjoy seeing the picture of himself and his old roomies again.

I'm long, happily married. He's long married, too.

What do you guys think?

[TerraDown]

I think it's quite thoughtful, and not at all inappropriate. The way you explained everything it's a fond memory for him to see once again, imho.

[brava4]

I always ask myself... "what's the point"? It stops me and makes me really think more, longer about what I am about to do. I think there might be more to it than you realize. And why would you feel the need to add you are happily married?


Do you not think he has pics of himself way back when? Again, I think there is more to this.

[maciesmom]

Originally Posted by TerraDown

I think it's quite thoughtful, and not at all inappropriate. The way you explained everything it's a fond memory for him to see once again, imho.

I agree. It's a nice pic of him and his buddies that he may not have. It's not like she sent a picture of the two of them together.

[BirdieBelle]

Hardly worth being "mortified" about.

[texan2yankee]

Originally Posted by TerraDown

I think it's quite thoughtful, and not at all inappropriate. The way you explained everything it's a fond memory for him to see once again, imho.

Thanks for the post. I was surprised by my friends' response, which is why I asked.

[germaine2626]

Originally Posted by TerraDown

I think it's quite thoughtful, and not at all inappropriate. The way you explained everything it's a fond memory for him to see once again, imho.

I agree. I can't imagine why your friends thought that it was wrong.

I'm 65 and I wish that I had more photographs from my HS and college days.

[Flamingo13]

I think it's fine - many people over the yrs. have lost or misplaced old photos of themselves and friends.

[clarksvillemom]

I think it was a nice thing to do and don't understand what the issue is - your friends sound weird.

[PinaCarlotta]

Originally Posted by TerraDown

I think it's quite thoughtful, and not at all inappropriate. The way you explained everything it's a fond memory for him to see once again, imho.

I agree. very thoughtful of you, OP