How compatible are you with your spouse/partner as far as house cleanliness? (husband, person)

[diddlydudette]

I'm just curious how it works out if one spouse is a lot cleaner or messier than the other. How do you deal?

[Robino1]

I'm more organized but hubby is neat. Just don't open his desk drawers. ROFL!

We complement each other. He doesn't make the neatest bed but he does do dishes and will help with laundry.

I figure don't sweat the small stuff. As long as he tries, that's all that matters.

[FalconheadWest]

You pull your hair out a lot and you beg for help a lot, and then you use passive aggressive comments hoping he hears those since plain English doesn't work, and then you just turn everything into chores for the kids to do.

[WorldKlas]

Lots of ways to deal with it. A regular schedule of when/who does what cleaning. Hiring a cleaning person on a regular basis. Giving up and just doing it yourself. Giving up and not doing it until the place is a disaster and then having a big cleaning day.

[veuvegirl]

Honestly drives me bat**** crazy. My husband is an absolute slob. It's very hard to deal with and makes the marriage very stressful at times.

[HappyFarm34]

I was in a serious relationship with a guy who had no sense of organization and cleanliness. One room was entirely filled with boxes and storage containers of stuff stacked 4-5 feet high. There was barely no path to get to anything expect what was near the door. I do think he has a mild case of "hoarding syndrome" Some rooms of the house were okay like the kitchen, 2nd bathroom and living room where occasionally we had friends over to visit. His bedroom and adjacent bathroom was always cluttered with stuff and trash all over. His dad made a comment to me that he has always had issues with throwing anything away. I eventually ended the relationship with the guy after he got angry with me breaking the computer mouse when I accidentally threw something away that was "important"

No way I was gonna deal with that in a relationship. I don't consider myself a "clean freak" but I have a low tolerance for clutter and like having everything picked up off the floor so I don't hurt myself by tripping over something.

[elyn02]

Originally Posted by diddlydudette

I'm just curious how it works out if one spouse is a lot cleaner or messier than the other. How do you deal?

My husband likes the house neat and clean, therefore, I throw everything out that he doesn't put away so that I don't have to hear the nagging.

[fluffythewondercat]

Unfortunately, I can't discuss particulars. But I can say that I keep my vehicle scrupulously clean because it is impossible to do so with the house.

It's really important to my sanity to have something that can be kept fresh, clean and nice.

[Nov3]

When I was married, we were quite compatible.
I detest Meticulous. Where all the cans have to be facing a certain way ...or heaven forbid if the towel isn't folded a particular way. My then hubby learned to "relax" on the "visual" and took more time appreciating the efforts and the "family" time. Some nights we even let the pans soak!

If things become more cared for then the people in the home....its not Home sweet home....

So blessed that I did have a spouse that "got" that message early.....

Neither of us were "slobs", we simply worked at what mattered....Our family

[CGab]

We are pretty equal as we both like a clean home and both pitch in to keep it that way. Since my daughter are getting a little older now they also pitch in. Everyone has a job to do.