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If your light only shines on your yard then yes your neighbor is being entitled, But I'm going to guess that is not the situation and the light extends into her yard? In which case I think she has a right to complain and you need to shield your light.
Well, the OP did say that there are trees in her yard blocking some of this "soft light", and beyond that, a fence. So one really wonders to what extent the neighbor is exaggerating the problem.
I'm with the neighbor! My neighbors leave outside lights on all night, and it shines directly into my bedroom, directly into my eyes. It's annoying. I don't like sleeping with shades down, because I like being awakened by sunlight at dawn. But I've never said anything to the neighbors. I just have tried putting something on a table underneath the window to block the view of the light.
She's telling you it's bothering her. So yes, use a directional light directed only into your yard, in order to be a good neighbor.
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I do wonder, though, how we described selfish or thoughtless or demanding people, before the word "entitled" became popular.
We described them as: selfish, thoughtless and demanding.
To the OP: If you really want to keep peace, just get a motion activated light. If you don't want peace become thoughtless yourself, keep your current light.
The ball is now in your court.
You cant change others, you can only change yourself.
My bedroom window is backed by a treed lot. Somewhere on the other side of that lot are lights from...something. Not so much in the summer but in the winter if I'm laying on my side and looking out the window (my curtains are usually open) the lights really draw the eye. No they don't hurt or bother me. I have a cable box thingy with the brightest blue number lighting. I had to put tape over it. Did it actually cause pain? Not but it was really amazingly bothersome.
I guess what I'm saying is that in the middle of the dark night any source of light becomes readily apparent, the more so as the night wears on and your eyes adjust to darkness.
There are lots of studies out there about sleeping in total dark. Dark is important and personally I often have my windows open and curtains open as being shut up is just awful.
Why not just have a polite discussion? Discuss her curtains, whether she thinks a hood changing the angle would help, has she tried an eye mask (I wouldn't be able to wear one).
Personally I wonder you don't have motion sensor lights. As a neighbor I don't think I'd like the glow from your house whether it hurt my eyes or not.
If she is rich then I assume you are too although you seem to think not quite as much. You probably live in a decent neighborhood? How many break ins are there really? Would motion sensors not suffice? Window alarms? What are you afraid of exactly?
I suspect the snowflake is on the other foot.
That’s funny. I can’t sleep in total darkness. We have dim night lights. And I live in an urban area. There’s always some light.
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