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I'm sure at least one other person knows such an individual.
An acquaintance with whom I have talked, I'll say something, he'll say something in response, ending with "You understand?" Example: I went online, you understand? And I was checking something for sale...they wanted X amount, you understand? And I wanted to bargain the price, you understand? Hoping he'll take what I'm offering, you understand?....
Now what'll happen if I don't understand? Will I get horse-whipped?
Girlfriend says something similar when she's mad at me...
I tell her if she keeps it up she'll find herself single. In that situation I find it rather offensive. In your situation I'm thinking it's just a quirk of someone lacking confidence, but I don't know the individual.
I don't ask if people understand, I expect them to. The quickest way to get me irritated is to make me repeat myself. Girlfriend likes to do that sometimes...
I'm sure at least one other person knows such an individual.
An acquaintance with whom I have talked, I'll say something, he'll say something in response, ending with "You understand?" Example: I went online, you understand? And I was checking something for sale...they wanted X amount, you understand? And I wanted to bargain the price, you understand? Hoping he'll take what I'm offering, you understand?....
Now what'll happen if I don't understand? Will I get horse-whipped?
I wonder if "you understand"? means are you still listening and can you follow the story? Or maybe they just want a yes or no and otherwise don't want you to say anything? If you claimed you didn't understand, what might they do? Retell the story, perhaps in greater detail, or just give up?
Perhaps it is mainly due to women typically talking more but I feel that women are the worst offenders when it comes to this kind of stuff, especially when there's a group of them. Saying "Like" three or four times a sentence. To say nothing about when they they tell each other some news and they start screaming and getting really high-pitched over it.
Why don't you ask this person point-blank why he ends every sentence that way?
I'd be interested in his response. Maybe at some level he doesn't even know he's doing it.
That's probably the case. Years ago, I was visiting a friend in Maryland, and one of her friends said he observed that people from New Jersey often end their sentences in "Right", either as a question or a statement. I thought about it for a second and automatically responding. "Right".
Perhaps it is mainly due to women typically talking more but I feel that women are the worst offenders when it comes to this kind of stuff, especially when there's a group of them. Saying "Like" three or four times a sentence. To say nothing about when they they tell each other some news and they start screaming and getting really high-pitched over it.
I think those are younger women, maybe in their 20s or even 30s. Tossing "like" in everywhere wasn't a thing when the rest of us were growing up.
I think it starts from two concepts. The first is they want confirmation that you are actually listening to what they are saying and have paid attention so they don't have to explain things twice. I've had many conversations with people and when I pause for their turn, they just stare blankly like they don't know that conversation and understanding requires two to participate. Or I get to the end and they say "what, did you say something?"
The second reason is, like someone mentioned, they want to get you agreeing along with them point by point so they can spring the big reveal at the end. A manipulative sales technique that some are very good at.
I find it annoying when people start their sentences with: "So". (I've even seen comments/posts written that way!) These are usually the same people who also "upspeak"; every sentence sounds like a question.
-"So, I went to the farmers' market? And they were out of free-range kale?"
-"So, I wanted to buy this artisanal beanie? But the Alpaca-wool was not free-trade? And I had already made plans to be in the drum-circle?
Athletes and especially basketball players all seem to suffer from a lack of confidence, or perhaps think reporters interviewing them are slow witted, so at the end of every sentence, instead of a period, they interject, "yuknow?" "Or both may be true"
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