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A so-called friend threw a get together. I found out after the fact. Okay. Now last year I was invited. I went, enjoyed, all fine and dandy.
This time, I wasn't invited. Okay, so I said, half seriously, "Sorry I missed out". The so-called "friend" comes back with, "I had family there...and it's rude to invite yourself!" First of all, I never invited myself anywhere - and I made this clear. So they said, "Well sorry but I just don't think you are much of a social contribution!" So I went off on them and said a few not so nice things...and ended with<bleep> and the high horse you rode in on, you (fill in the colorful blanks)! Obviously, I cut the person off from my circle.
One of the person's friends contacted me and started to say a few choice words but I came back with, "You know where to find me. Come say it to my face!" A real friend of mine, hearing this, said, "And what if (name) does come to you?" I know that they won't, but given the disrespect, and my easy-to-lose temper, for a brief moment I was ready to cool someone.
I know, I'm still a work in progress, but again, I still keep a bad temper in the face of disrespectfulness
And you wonder why you were not invited?
Your own friend put you in your place.
Work in progress? Enough already. You're plenty old enough to get your shat together already.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 05-01-2018 at 06:41 AM..
A so-called friend threw a get together. I found out after the fact. Okay. Now last year I was invited. I went, enjoyed, all fine and dandy.
This time, I wasn't invited. Okay, so I said, half seriously, "Sorry I missed out". The so-called "friend" comes back with, "I had family there...and it's rude to invite yourself!" First of all, I never invited myself anywhere - and I made this clear. So they said, "Well sorry but I just don't think you are much of a social contribution!" So I went off on them and said a few not so nice things...and ended with<bleep> and the high horse you rode in on, you (fill in the colorful blanks)! Obviously, I cut the person off from my circle.
One of the person's friends contacted me and started to say a few choice words but I came back with, "You know where to find me. Come say it to my face!" A real friend of mine, hearing this, said, "And what if (name) does come to you?" I know that they won't, but given the disrespect, and my easy-to-lose temper, for a brief moment I was ready to cool someone.
I know, I'm still a work in progress, but again, I still keep a bad temper in the face of disrespectfulness
What I'm getting from your post is that you were hurt that you weren't invited to a party, and your passive-aggressive and childish reaction was to say, "Sorry I missed out" to your friend as if you'd been entitled to an invite. They, unsurprisingly, didn't take the jab well, and pointed out that you weren't invited because it was a family gathering and you aren't much of social contribution. And now you think they're the horrible and disrespectful person and you're the victim.
It's good that you are self-aware enough to realize you're "a work in progress" and have a "bad temper," but I'd like to point out that your bad temper wasn't in response to disrespectfulness. Your friend wasn't being disrespectful--you responded to a perceived slight/hurt feelings/disappointment with a bad temper (i.e. being passive-aggressive and childish) and they felt like they were being attacked/scolded and became defensive. You might need to reflect on what really gets you in a bad temper.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 05-01-2018 at 06:42 AM..
A so-called friend threw a get together. I found out after the fact. Okay. Now last year I was invited. I went, enjoyed, all fine and dandy.
This time, I wasn't invited. Okay, so I said, half seriously, "Sorry I missed out". The so-called "friend" comes back with, "I had family there...and it's rude to invite yourself!" First of all, I never invited myself anywhere - and I made this clear. So they said, "Well sorry but I just don't think you are much of a social contribution!" So I went off on them and said a few not so nice things...and ended with<bleep> and the high horse you rode in on, you (fill in the colorful blanks)! Obviously, I cut the person off from my circle.
One of the person's friends contacted me and started to say a few choice words but I came back with, "You know where to find me. Come say it to my face!" A real friend of mine, hearing this, said, "And what if (name) does come to you?" I know that they won't, but given the disrespect, and my easy-to-lose temper, for a brief moment I was ready to cool someone.
I know, I'm still a work in progress, but again, I still keep a bad temper in the face of disrespectfulness
Seems to me that you started the disrespectfulness with your passive-aggressive comment about "sorry I missed out" Just because your friend has a get together that you attended last year, that doesn't mean that you get to assume that you would be invited this year. They are free to invite (or not invite) whoever they want. They clearly wanted to make it more of a family event this year.
It's pretty clear why they didn't want you there.
Technically you may not have invited yourself, but you did ASSUME that you should have been.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 05-01-2018 at 06:43 AM..
well why do you even care what this so called friend says ? I think someone who has the nerve to say that to you is not really a friend and just ignore them go out and make new friends . so what she did not invite you big deal . Obviously this so called friend thinks rather highly of themselves and to me that is not a true friend .
A so-called friend threw a get together. I found out after the fact. Okay. Now last year I was invited. I went, enjoyed, all fine and dandy.
This time, I wasn't invited. Okay, so I said, half seriously, "Sorry I missed out". The so-called "friend" comes back with, "I had family there...and it's rude to invite yourself!" First of all, I never invited myself anywhere - and I made this clear. So they said, "Well sorry but I just don't think you are much of a social contribution!" So I went off on them and said a few not so nice things...and ended with<bleep> and the high horse you rode in on, you (fill in the colorful blanks)! Obviously, I cut the person off from my circle.
One of the person's friends contacted me and started to say a few choice words but I came back with, "You know where to find me. Come say it to my face!" A real friend of mine, hearing this, said, "And what if (name) does come to you?" I know that they won't, but given the disrespect, and my easy-to-lose temper, for a brief moment I was ready to cool someone.
I know, I'm still a work in progress, but again, I still keep a bad temper in the face of disrespectfulness
For the life of me, I cannot understand why you tell stories on yourself like this.
Surely you can't think you come off well in this one or some others recently.
Last edited by Miss Blue; 05-01-2018 at 06:43 AM..
well why do you even care what this so called friend says ? I think someone who has the nerve to say that to you is not really a friend and just ignore them go out and make new friends . so what she did not invite you big deal . Obviously this so called friend thinks rather highly of themselves and to me that is not a true friend .
I think someone who has the nerve to get bent out of shape over someone changing the guest list from last year's event and inviting more family is not really a friend.
We are all works in progress, it is a well known phrase from self-help books, etc. What's wrong with that?
Uh... I'm aware what the phrase means.
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