Gossipers (jealous, person, definition, house)

[OzzyRules]

Do we have a right to be offended by people who like to gossip?

It seems like a natural thing for some people to do. These people are often kind of reserved, but you can tell that a lot of people bother them. It seems like a part of their nature to want to talk about other people behind their backs. They tend to be kind of sensitive also.

How do you feel about people who gossip?

[thinkalot]

Gossip often means jealous. Maybe not what they are gossiping about but some other part of the persons life.

[ClaraC]

Gossiping is such a bad habit - it really feeds on itself.

And people who will gossip with you, will gossip about you.

I just say oh no, how sad. Or she must be really frightened. Etc.

And then change the subject.

[nicholas_n]

Originally Posted by OzzyRules

It seems like a natural thing for some people to do. These people are often kind of reserved, but you can tell that a lot of people bother them. It seems like a part of their nature to want to talk about other people behind their backs. They tend to be kind of sensitive also.

Interesting. The gossipers where I work are some of the more outgoing people there, and are generally well-liked by most of the staff. I was unfortunate enough to sit in on one of their hour-long gossip convos (part of it, anyway), and that was enough for me. It's one thing to talk a little bit about what you did last weekend with your friends/SO/etc, but I have a hard time with people who just gossip about anyone and everyone at every chance. 'Offended' probably isn't the correct term, but it sure feels like I can't trust them.

[hertfordshire]

Offended? No. Annoyed? Sure.

[zentropa]

Gossippers tend to be the social climbers in my experience. It's a useful tool in their world. I rarely gossip (I live in a glass house) but I don't mind listening to it!

[PriscillaVanilla]

If someone gossips about someone else, they'll gossip about you too.

[Lily003]

I just try to listen and end up getting sucked in!

[treemoni]

Originally Posted by ClaraC

Gossiping is such a bad habit - it really feeds on itself.

And people who will gossip with you, will gossip about you.

It can be a struggle not to engage sometimes. I know when I'm doing it, I'm not my best self. It leaves me feeling icky afterwards.

[JonathanLB]

I’m not sure what the definition of gossip really is anymore. I mean I definitely make fun of people I find laughable behind their backs, but I wouldn’t call it gossip. To me gossip is like, “Did you hear Bill is having an affair with the intern?!” And I don’t really care about that kind of nonsense but I will definitely say, “Did you see the waiter had a giant man bun?!”