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I had someone do this years ago and the shop assistant saw it but started to serve her and I said “err I don’t think so,I’m not chopped liver thanks” and placed my order and told the assistant she can serve the person when it’s HER turn.
It’s hard to know what to say when someone is so blatantly rude but a smile and a “sheesh I haven’t done the bump for years , sorry your disco move isn’t going to work today “ works too. You can be nasty and perhaps cause a scene, you can ignore it and help enable people like her to do it again,or you can use a bit polite humour and stand your ground.
Sometimes standing your ground with an almost stupidly direct stare at the rudeness is all it takes. You aren't attacking anything, you aren't lowering yourself to the same level, you behave as if the person didn't quite register because they were so unbelievably arrogant.
I had someone do this years ago and the shop assistant saw it but started to serve her and I said “err I don’t think so,I’m not chopped liver thanks” and placed my order and told the assistant she can serve the person when it’s HER turn.
It’s hard to know what to say when someone is so blatantly rude but a smile and a “sheesh I haven’t done the bump for years , sorry your disco move isn’t going to work today “ works too. You can be nasty and perhaps cause a scene, you can ignore it and help enable people like her to do it again,or you can use a bit polite humour and stand your ground.
I primarily see this when I'm shopping at ethnic supermarkets and I'm the only one of my race/ethnicity shopping there. But I always let the clerk know (even if they don't speak English) of my displeasure and proceed to place my order as it should have been placed. Its bizarre that some people think they can be rude and inconsiderate like this. I'd want to think it was cultural differences, but the people were clearly taking advantage of the fact that I was not "like them" as they didn't do that to anyone else in the store.
I kind of believe that bad manners fester when we allow them. ...........
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The problem is that there is no way to know who is self-centered and rude and who is crazy to the point that they are dangerous. I suspect that has a lot to do with backing away and letting them get away with such bad manners when it doesn't really matter much.
Congratulations to OP for letting it slide. It took balls. I would have too, but 20 years ago would've started a war. In old age now, it just ain't worth it.
And keep in mind, there'll come a day when a person like this pulls this stuff with the wrong one, and will pay the price. That thought often consoles me.
And keep in mind, there'll come a day when a person like this pulls this stuff with the wrong one, and will pay the price.
I'm not saying we should live in fear, but I never understood why this doesn't deter more people from being mean/rude to strangers.
BTW: Seeing you and Tinawina in same thread brought back memories of the Baltimore forum days.
Good to see you're still doing OK, getting those food drops out in the mountains....
I had something similar happen also. A guy just walked right up in front of me and but in line, so I pointed and said, "the line starts back there." He said.....get this....."LINES ARE FOR SUCKERS" and then chuckled. (I'm a middle-aged woman, and that makes this even worse in my opinion.)
I made a big stink, and the cashier ended up telling the guy he'd have to go to the back of the line.
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to the back of the line and I don't take too kindly to strangers touching me.
