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Meaning borderline personality disorder. What is it like being friends with someone who been diagnosed with it?
What it looks like is nothing you can handle, unless you are a trained psychoanalyst and/or therapist in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) or other current thinking on treatment.
Ask me how I know this. Not once, but twice dealt-with, and failed.
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My friend is horrible ....she is manipulative and doesn't want to work to pay rent and tries to guilt us into paying for her stuff. She constantly makes up "problems" within her life to make people feel sorry for her. And does the most dramatic stuff to get you to ask her "what's wrong?"
So....to the previous, trying to deal with someone ("your friend") who (really) has BPD, or PTSD, or bi-polar is nothing you can deal with. Attempting to have rational conversations with insane people is a complete non-starter. You cannot talk them out of their insanity unless a trained professional, which you aren't pretty obviously (nor am I). But until you figure out they have serious, deep-seated emotional problems, you think you're dealing with normal people. That, I can understand, been-there/done-that/got the t-shirt.
So....to the previous, trying to deal with someone ("your friend") who (really) has BPD, or PTSD, or bi-polar is nothing you can deal with. Attempting to have rational conversations with insane people is a complete non-starter. You cannot talk them out of their insanity unless a trained professional, which you aren't pretty obviously (nor am I). But until you figure out they have serious, deep-seated emotional problems, you think you're dealing with normal people. That, I can understand, been-there/done-that/got the t-shirt.
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Your post is well-stated. That's exactly it pertaining to one overriding aspect of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder - as you say, "attempting to have rational conversations with insane people is a complete non-starter. You cannot talk them out of their insanity". So true!
and "serious, deep-seated emotional problems" is the reality.
I have a friend who has BPD. One thing I've noticed about him the most is that you're either on his side or else you're the enemy. He is never at fault for anything and he is always the victim. If you don't pay enough attention to him, he gets very angry and gives you the silent treatment. I've been friends with him for over 25 years and just recently he unfriended me on Facebook because I'm busy with a new relationship and some family matters. He didn't tell me he did it, I just noticed it when I was commenting on a mutual friends post that his profile said "add friend". It's exhausting trying to figure him out.
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