I saw my dad chatting another woman. (husband, siblings, person)

[goldenson88]

Dad is chatting another woman. I saw him one afternoon inside his room talking to a foreign woman in tinder. He’s not just cheating on my mom but to the whole family as well. What should I do? He already has grandkids and it’s very shameful to know someone cheating at his age. What should I do? My mom has been very loyal and faithful to their marriage. Should I tell my siblings about this? Need help!

[WorldKlas]

I’m sorry you discovered this because you are completely powerless in this situation. But you also have information that could have much impact on the whole family. You really don’t know the adult/personal side of your parents’ relationship. When I was in my mid-20’s and a young married new mom, I discovered my husband was cheating on me. I told my mother that I was divorcing my husband. It was close to Christmas and she paid my airfare to come home. Over the holiday, we went to my aunt’s house. Both my mother and my aunt told me that their husbands (my Dad and uncle) had affairs and both decided to stay in the marriage and both were glad they did and over time the marriages restored to a good place for them. In my own situation, it wasn’t my path and whie I tried for a few more years eventually I did divorce my cheating, alcoholic husband.

I only mentioned my own experience because — having insight to my parents and my aunt & uncle’s marriages — I would never have guessed their relationships were anything but perfect all the years I knew them.

So, think about your Mom carefully. Let’s say she became aware of her husband’s behavior and left him. Do you think her life could be better without him? If so, then maybe it would be appropriate to share what you discovered. If not, keep it to yourself.

[phonelady61]

I think your mom will eventually find out or she already knows and does not care . yes some women are like that . I never was you cheat on me you are so out of my life . If your mom does decide to leave your dad then be supportive and please don't tell her you knew .

[ccc123]

Stay out of it, you don’t know the intimate details of your parents marriage.

[G-fused]

Grow up kid.

[zentropa]

Originally Posted by goldenson88

Dad is chatting another woman. I saw him one afternoon inside his room talking to a foreign woman in tinder.

You could tell what he was typing, to whom, on what site, and the woman's nationality from across the room?

[WellShoneMoon]

Originally Posted by WorldKlas

So, think about your Mom carefully. Let’s say she became aware of her husband’s behavior and left him. Do you think her life could be better without him? If so, then maybe it would be appropriate to share what you discovered. If not, keep it to yourself.

This isn't OP's decision to make. It's not OP's place to insert himself into his parents' relationship by telling his mother about it.

If I were in OP's position, I'd probably have a quiet conversation with my dad, letting him know what I THINK I discovered. Don't be judgmental, don't threaten him with spilling the beans, just say, "This is what I THINK I found, just wanted you to know."

[KathrynAragon]

Originally Posted by WellShoneMoon

This isn't OP's decision to make. It's not OP's place to insert himself into his parents' relationship by telling his mother about it.

If I were in OP's position, I'd probably have a quiet conversation with my dad, letting him know what I THINK I discovered. Don't be judgmental, don't threaten him with spilling the beans, just say, "This is what I THINK I found, just wanted you to know."

This is what I'd do too.

[Carrie2979]

Originally Posted by KathrynAragon

This is what I'd do too.

Me too!

[Spuggy]

Originally Posted by WellShoneMoon

This isn't OP's decision to make. It's not OP's place to insert himself into his parents' relationship by telling his mother about it.

If I were in OP's position, I'd probably have a quiet conversation with my dad, letting him know what I THINK I discovered. Don't be judgmental, don't threaten him with spilling the beans, just say, "This is what I THINK I found, just wanted you to know."

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