Setting boundaries with demanding and rude family members (boyfriend, grandmother, house)
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Over the last year my mom has gotten into the habit of texting me and demanding that I do something and then blowing up my phone when she’s gets angry that I can’t.
Like the other day she texted me and told me I was picking up my grandmother from some meeting, she didn’t even ask me if I was available to do so.
It’s becoming more and more frequent and asinine, like texting me in the morning to come make my grandmother food again without even asking me what I’m doing or if I’m available to come do so.
Every time she does this I always ask “Did you bother checking to see if I could first?” and then let her know if I can’t.
I was at the doctor the other day listening to my phone go off like someone had died and it was something my mom could have easily done herself.
How do I kindly get across to her that texting me out of the blue, telling me to do something without asking is rude and inconsiderate?
Well, don't you think you should help out with your grandmother? That shouldn't just be you mother's responsibility.
Oh but I do. I help her quite frequently, I help my grandmother more than my mother does.
This is about my mom texting me, not even asking me if I’m available before she just tells me what to do.
Then getting angry when I’m busy.
I’m at the physical therapist 3x a week and the other day I was at the therapist and she got pissed because I couldn’t help her.
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Originally Posted by Mattie
Are you working now? Why can't you help out the grandmother who has been very, very good to you?
I have been and I do.
My mom lives with my grandmother and rarely does anything for her.
Texting me at 9am to come make my grandmother breakfast when I live 15 minutes across town because my mom doesn’t feel like getting out of bed is a joke.
Not even close. This grandmother has been the jumper for years. Check out the OP's posting history.
My grandmother has let us live in an old house in desperate need of renovation that would have otherwise sat vacant until my great grandmothers death 1 3/4 years ago because she forbid anyone to sell it before she died.
We pay all utilities and have taken over paying the property tax.
I inherited a money pit. My name is now even on the deed.
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