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I have posted about this particular fair weather friend before. In the past 6 months she has cancelled plans that we have made. The other day, her picture popped up on social media and I told her I missed her and she said that we need to get together very soon. I told her that I was coming into to town this weekend and she just liked the comment. Never tried to follow up.
I feel like a doormat. I really want to want to tell her how crappy of a friend she has been and then tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him, but the Lord wouldn't like that...so I'm asking you guys what is the best way to handle it.
AND THEN...with a different friend-we signed up for this 12 week class for running and on our first jog meet, she brought a new guy that she was seeing barely spoke to me. I didn't mind that she brought him, but I did mind that we signed up together to do it and she didn't have time for me.
A simple way of approaching this is to weigh whether these relationships are causing you more harm than good. If they are never contact those girls again and move on with your life. Life's too short to be in relationships you don't want. Never mind what the lord says. He doesn't have to live your life.
Broaden your social horizon. There are good friends, bad friends, and mediocre friends. Eventually you weed out the bad ones, and accept the mediocre ones but limit what you do with them. These kind of friends make you very grateful when you find a good friend.
The first one isn't a friend. When someone never initiates contact or follows through when you initiate contact, they don't consider you a friend. Get out and meet some new friends through classes, hobbies, meetup, church, volunteering, etc. GOOD LUCK!!
I'm sure you've been told in past threads that this is not a friend and you should cut ties. I'll never understand you people who are so needy and desperate for companionship that you'll put up with obvious mistreatment, hoping someone will eventually give you that pat on the back.
It's sad, really. Get better friends. Get ACTUAL friends, even.
I feel like a doormat. I really want to want to tell her how crappy of a friend she has been and then tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him, but the Lord wouldn't like that...so I'm asking you guys what is the best way to handle it.
Lord who? Lord Grantham? Doesn't matter. The best way to handle this is to unfriend this person and make new friends who want to spend time with you. If you have to beg for their attention, they aren't really friends and aren't worthy of your time.
I have posted about this particular fair weather friend before. In the past 6 months she has cancelled plans that we have made. The other day, her picture popped up on social media and I told her I missed her and she said that we need to get together very soon. I told her that I was coming into to town this weekend and she just liked the comment. Never tried to follow up.
I feel like a doormat. I really want to want to tell her how crappy of a friend she has been and then tell her boyfriend that she cheated on him,but the Lord wouldn't like that...so I'm asking you guys what is the best way to handle it.
I'd just fade out and move on from this one. Not because of "the Lord" but because it's just not worth it, and meddling with the boyfriend would not be the right thing to do.
I'm sure you've been told in past threads that this is not a friend and you should cut ties. I'll never understand you people who are so needy and desperate for companionship that you'll put up with obvious mistreatment, hoping someone will eventually give you that pat on the back.
It's sad, really. Get better friends. Get ACTUAL friends, even.
Wow harsh...why do you see it as desperate??
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