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My name is Stacy and I'm a smiley happy person. Oh wait I'm not trying to quit I like being this way. It's not necessary to succeed and we, like you are realists. The difference is what side of realism we live on. I live on the side where I know there are bad things in the world but also am realistic enough to know I can't do anything about most of it. So I live in the joy of the good around me. I also have a strong faith in a loving, righteous God. This is not the religion forum so I won't go into what that means. IM me if you want me to explain. Bottom line is that I would rather see a smile than a frown.
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My name is Stacy and I'm a smiley happy person. Oh wait I'm not trying to quit I like being this way. It's not necessary to succeed and we, like you are realists. The difference is what side of realism we live on. I live on the side where I know there are bad things in the world but also am realistic enough to know I can't do anything about most of it. So I live in the joy of the good around me. I also have a strong faith in a loving, righteous God. This is not the religion forum so I won't go into what that means. IM me if you want me to explain. Bottom line is that I would rather see a smile than a frown.
To me, people who are always saying, "Well, it could be worse" or "Things will look better tomorrow" are people who are uncomfortable with ordinary sadness and just don't know that sometimes a person just needs a little time to get through whatever small or large things they are coping with at the moment. It has nothing to do with faith or trying to put on a happy face--it has to do with just accepting that life is not always fair or good. Slogging through the swamps of life until you come out the other side is just life. It's when a person wallows in those swamps endlessly that it becomes a problem.
We all know, or even have to suffer them on occasions, the type of person that is even positive about negative things.
Me, I’m looked at as a pessimist, but in fact, I see it as realism.
To a great extent, if someone is friendly to me, or overly positive about something, I have to ask myself, why. Why not?
Are you one of them? Yep, usually.
Does it help you, not only in work, but in general life? Oh yes, it helps me very much. Even if I don't want to be doing what I'm having to do, I find that if I go at it with a positive and cheerful attitude, rather than slogging along like a depressed beast of burden, I have more energy and the time and task seems to fly by. I've always been the person at work whom others come to for a word of encouragement and a hug, because I "always have such a great attitude and am always cheerful". That's not always true though...I'm NOT always cheerful, but no one ELSE needs to know that.
Do you have to be a smiley happy person to succeed in life? Nope.
What’s with all this overly pally networking?
Just wondering!
Maybe the reason for some people always having a positive return comment is that they don't know what else to say...and feel it's better than saying, "Yeah dude/dudette, I'd hate to have your life, cuz it really sucks." If I were you, I'd open a vein!! Perhaps they say it because they want you to not be miserable.
I've found that there really IS a silver lining to most clouds, you just have to be looking for it.
For instance....I'm annoyed that the weather hasn't been nicer this year. We've had MAYBE 3 days of "spring-like" weather and very, very few days without rain....ONE non-rainy day where there wasn't a freezing cold northerly wind blowing. Yep...it's annoying. Where's my silver lining?
We COULD be having tornados and I COULD have lost a loved one, best friend, neighbor, my home, my car, etc. We COULD be having horrible floods and again...I COULD have lost my home and be living in a shelter. But....it's just chilly and wetter than I'd like it to be. Therefore, I choose to be grateful for the weather.
Maybe it's in how you're raised. Being a southern girl I was brought up with the Scarlet O'Hara mentality, smile thru adversity.
" oh, you need a new dress? Grab them curtains Baby, and we'll git ya all done up proper."
I'm an optimist by nature, but I also know when to shut up.
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The difference is what side of realism we live on. I live on the side where I know there are bad things in the world but also am realistic enough to know I can't do anything about most of it. So I live in the joy of the good around me. I also have a strong faith in a loving, righteous God. This is not the religion forum so I won't go into what that means. IM me if you want me to explain. Bottom line is that I would rather see a smile than a frown.
