The friend who you wish you really never had (high school, people, friends)

[psychthriller]

Have you ever had a friend who at the time you just loved, but looking back they were just the biggest douche? I honestly hate that.

[christina0001]

That's funny, I was thinking of such an old friend this morning. In college she and I were great friends, and we hung out with two other friends all the time. The four of us were almost inseparable. But looking back, she constantly lied, made up absurd stories. At the time I knew she was lying but I would go along with it just to keep the peace. She moved out of state and I visited her twice, then she moved again and fell off the face of the planet. I haven't heard from her in years. Looking back, I really don't know why I was friends with her. She lied a lot and after she moved, the three of us still had plenty of fun, so I don't think she contributed much. Ah well.

[dullnboring]

This happened to me relatively recently. I forged a friendship with someone because I initially found a lot in common with them and enjoyed their company, but over time, quickly found out that they weren't who I thought they were. He was actually all-around just a really nasty person, but yet, I found myself putting up with his crap just because the friendship was convenient. I reached a breaking point and cut ties with him about one year ago and looking back on it, am floored and embarrassed that I put up with him for so long.

I've had a few other friendships die out on me, and a few friendships in high school that I also feel were forged more for convenience's sake (i.e. we lived near each other or we had the same classes or all of my other friends had a different lunch period than me, etc.) where I would never choose to hang out with them nowadays. I think the reason why the first situation really sort of stings a bit is the fact that I feel like as a high schooler, I had the excuse of being "trapped" in an environment, and of youthful immaturity, whereas now I'm an adult and there wasn't as much reason for me to continue a friendship that not only added no value to my life, but was actually detracting from it.

[country pride]

Ive never really had that issue. Most of my friends and buddies are just who they are.
Hey its better than in school, all through H S it seemed I was the 'nerd' and had only 2 friends...and they too, were both nerds!
Ever want to go onto one of those talk shows where you knew people, had crushes on someone in school, or just wanted to be their friend, yet they never even knew you existed...and you kinda wanna say 'how do ya like me now?' Maybe not to that extreme, not to 'get even', but I can think of a few people from those days Id like to see what ever happened to.

[Marylandkitten]

I've only every had 2 friends that I really couldn't stand to be around after awhile, for various reasons... but I never dumped them. I always told myself that God put me in their lives for a reason, if not for me to have friends, to perhaps make an influence on their lives, or impact them to a point where it would help/change their lives as well, for the better.

[psychthriller]

I think its really rare to find friends that you know that if you have never met that you dunno what you would have done without them and there are always those friends you can do without. Unfortunately, I wish some of my "friends"...fell off the face of the planet.