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Old 11-23-2014, 08:29 AM
 
Location: Portsmouth, UK/Swanage, UK
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I was talking to a woman on the phone about joining the gym, and it got me thinking, why am I so scared (to extent of butterflies in my stomach!) about calling a stranger on the phone, but not scarred at all about physically seeing and talking to a stranger. I don't really understand why I'm like this? one would think it would be the other way round, as talking to a stranger on the phone is less likely to punch you or whatever? But being a social person, I'd rather see what the persons body language is and stuff when asking questions...

Am I the only person that's like this, or is there anyone else here who would rather see a stranger physically when talking about something regarding joining the gym or talking about bank problems, than talking to the stranger through the phone?
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Old 11-23-2014, 08:49 AM
 
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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I was talking to a woman on the phone about joining the gym, and it got me thinking, why am I so scared (to extent of butterflies in my stomach!) about calling a stranger on the phone, but not scarred at all about physically seeing and talking to a stranger. I don't really understand why I'm like this? one would think it would be the other way round, as talking to a stranger on the phone is less likely to punch you or whatever? But being a social person, I'd rather see what the persons body language is and stuff when asking questions...

Am I the only person that's like this, or is there anyone else here who would rather see a stranger physically when talking about something regarding joining the gym or talking about bank problems, than talking to the stranger through the phone?
I am the same way...I am better getting things across in person than on the phone... Sometimes I DREAD making a phone call...you're not alone!!!
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Old 11-23-2014, 09:06 AM
 
Location: Portsmouth, UK/Swanage, UK
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I am the same way...I am better getting things across in person than on the phone... Sometimes I DREAD making a phone call...you're not alone!!!
Nice to know, I'm not the only one!
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Old 11-24-2014, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Lexington, KY
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I think you don't realize how important visual communication and seeing body language in real time is until it's gone. This is why phone conversations are akward for me...it's almost more like talking to a machine than a person.
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Old 11-24-2014, 09:16 PM
 
Location: San Francisco
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I'm the same way. In order to make a telephone call, I have to talk myself into it first and build up my self-confidence. Sometimes I pretend that I'm an actress playing the role of an extrovert. Once the conversation gets going, I relax a little, but I never have felt really comfortable in telephone conversations. I seldom place a call unless it's truly necessary, and I've never called anyone just to say hello and chat.
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Old 11-24-2014, 11:16 PM
 
Location: Out there somewhere...a traveling man.
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I have no problem using the telephone. Matter of fact I can say or get away with many things that I wouldn't necessarily do in person.
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Old 11-25-2014, 07:12 AM
 
Location: Finland
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I have the same problem, to the extent that I can't even phone to make a doctor appointment or things like that so I try and deal with things face to face as much as possible even if it means hours wasted waiting in an office and if I can't do it face to face I ask my OH to call for me (though he won't always do it so sometimes I have to myself and takes a lot of working up to do it).

Strangely its not so bad if someone calls me and I answer the phone, still difficult but they are leading the conversation then so its a bit easier.
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Old 11-25-2014, 09:36 AM
 
Location: Looking over your shoulder
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I don’t care to talk on the phone at all and worse when it’s a stranger. I don’t’ like to make small talk with others who are not interested in what I’m in, so it becomes very difficult to continue any dialog.
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Old 11-25-2014, 11:00 PM
 
Location: Somewhere over the rainbow in "OZ "
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Either or works for me... After working for Government for over 20 years... you get to know how to tune in or tune off...or have the blank deer in the head light stare... Now you know why the MIB where sun glasses..
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Old 11-26-2014, 03:20 AM
 
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Sometimes I feel awkward when I'm sitting next to a stranger in an unfamiliar place and I have to talk with him and I have no idea what we can talk about.
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