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I received a call from my son's (13) school earlier today - thankfully, they weren't calling to tell me that he and his friends had been having inappropriate conversations again, like I'd been talking about here last week.
What it was about was that he and some friends had been running around with Halloween masks - despite the fact that everybody had specifically been informed that there would be no costumes/makeup/masks allowed today...
They were calling to inform me that his mask (which was purchased for a Halloween party that he still thinks he's going to tomorrow) was in the office and available to be picked up 'at my leisure' - which won't be today.
Since then I've gotten two text messages from him (the kids are allowed to have their cellphones at school for the purposes of after school communication etc, but they're not allowed to use them during the day) asking if I'm getting the mask and reminding me that he's going to need it tomorrow.
And now I'm in a bad mood (although I admit I was in a bit of a work-related mood anyway...) because this just feels like he's continually being bold and defiant at school...he is right? It seems to me (definitely with the texts aswell) that he didn't see the no-Halloween rule as a particularly serious one...(oh, or the cellphone rules...)
-If we hadn't just had the problems with the conversations I might not have ended up in such a bad mood but we've just been discussing the idea of respecting the rules/teachers at school. Obviously not seriously enough yet...
I'm sensing a bit of a wise-guy attitude coming through.
-If we hadn't just had the problems with the conversations I might not have ended up in such a bad mood but we've just been discussing the idea of respecting the rules/teachers at school. Obviously not seriously enough yet...
I'm sensing a bit of a wise-guy attitude coming through.
Ya think?
Not only would my son not be going to the Halloween parties he'd been looking forward to soooo much, he'd be up washing the roof tomorrow morning to get it through his thick head that there will be no more "conversations" (because those are not working) because I am sick and tired of his attitude. He doesn't want to play by the rules? Fine. Life just got reeeeal unpleasant.
What does he hate to do most in the world? Tomorrow, that is what he'll be doing.
I'm going with DewDrop on this one. Your son does not respect authority. Whatever you've done to date hasn't changed that. Time to get serious.
ETA: It may not seem like a big deal right now (to some) but keep in mind, he may be driving soon, and trying to find a job or applying for a scholarship...knowing appropriate times and places for behavior and when pushing the line is acceptable is a huge life lesson. Not allowing him to learn this is doing him a huge disservice.
Last edited by maciesmom; 10-29-2010 at 04:19 PM..
I'd give the kid a pass on this - granted, i don't know what "conversations" you're referring to.
The texting in school thing? He was texting his parent! Take it easy .....
Running around with a mask at school? Who cares! Boys will be boys.
Jesus. I got in way more trouble when i was 13, and I turned out great.
Sounds like you're being a little nitpicky and sensitive to me.
I have to agree with this poster. He was having a little bit of fun its halloween give it a break. He was texting you his parents just to make sure everything was okay with the mask. Maybe im a less lenient parent but it sounds like your being to hard on him. Trying to get him to stop innapproriate conversations will probably not happen. Hes a boy, it happens. Hell girls are ever worse at that.
School says no masks. Kid wears a mask. Kid gets the mask removed. That should be the end of it. The kid shouldn't be reminding mom or dad to pick the mask up because he needs it tomorrow. He doesn't need anything tomorrow other than food, clothing, and shelter. If he doesn't like it, he can mow the neighbor's lawn or rake the other neighbor's yard after school today for $5 and buy a new mask. He abused the privilege of having the first one, he forfeits it.
You guys have basically split yourselves halfway...that's not helpful for me figuring out how much of a justifiably bad mood I'm in...
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Originally Posted by DewDropInn
What does he hate to do most in the world?
Well soon it might be washing and polishing the roof.
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Originally Posted by 1200RT
The texting in school thing? He was texting his parent! Take it easy .....
Yeah, he was texting me....but for no good reason. I'm not sure that he was trying to make sure that everything was okay with the mask either. It seemed a little...expectant.
I think that what's bugging me right now is how he seems more interested in doing what the boys are doing rather than thinking about when rules might apply.
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Originally Posted by AnonChick
He abused the privilege of having the first one, he forfeits it.
I agree. He knew it wasn't welcome at school.
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Originally Posted by LeavingMassachusetts
And from your posts, the class clown to boot. I had one of those. Good times are ahead for you.
ohhh I don't want the class clown. Can I swap him?
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Originally Posted by cheerbaby112
Trying to get him to stop innapproriate conversations will probably not happen. Hes a boy, it happens.
I don't expect that he'll stop completely, he just needs to figure out time and place.
Yeap. Last year was the first year that the middle school and high school said no costumes. I think they decided that things were getting too risque, morbid or gruesome (maybe even sometimes all 3 at once).
And they have their issues with students and masks and identity and....schools these days...
I think that what's bugging me right now is how he seems more interested in doing what the boys are doing rather than thinking about when rules might apply.
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