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I don't mean to dodge your question, but what might be over protective parenting in one situation could be reasonable parenting in another situation. It depends.
The question is too general. The word "overprotective" indicates it is more than needed. Being "protective" is fine. Being "overprotective" is overdoing it, by definition.
No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I'm not talking about the kids.
- Bill Cosby, Fatherhood
What do you consider "over protective"??
Is it good or bad to be over protective??
Over protective to me means the parent doesn't treat the child age appropriate, shelters them, doesn't allow them the same freedoms as equal aged peers, excessively controls decisions, snoops/excessively monitors, doesn't allow space or freedom, constantly supervises.
Better way to put it:
A reasonable parent would allow their (say for example 14 year old) child the decision making when it comes to clothes (without looking like a hooker), make-up, hair, style etc. Lets them go places with friends unsupervised but gives them a phone to check in every once in a while on. Checks social media and phones if they feel it necessary, only added as a friend. Doesn't excessively restrict tv/movies/music.
A overprotective parent with a child the same age wouldn't allow that child the choice when it came to style of clothing, hair, make-up, style it would be what the parent picked. They wouldn't let that child go anywhere unsupervised they would stick with that child and their friends and not even compromise to let them go into stores alone with meeting at the food court in an hour or something. They would have login information of the childs social media (if the child had anything at all), they would be added as a friend, they would check daily, read text messages daily, they would on a regular basis comb through everything even without suspicion going on.
Usually children in the second scenario turn out weird.
Overprotective would be a parent who takes things past the normal, to the extreme. I.e. going with your daughter on her dates when she is 17. Or not letting your child ever sleep over peoples houses.
springfieldva and Kibbiekat, in two very short posts, have said all that really needs to be said about defining "overprotective". It has absolutely nothing to do with how much your parenting conforms or contrasts with the majority view on parenting, because we should all know by now the majority can be wrong.
Most of my cousins said my mom was overprotective with me.
Most of those cousins have criminal records and/or kids with an ex now.
I don't mean to dodge your question, but what might be over protective parenting in one situation could be reasonable parenting in another situation. It depends.
Agreed. It depends on the child's age, maturity level, life experience etc.
Overprotective is anything that I tell my mom I'm doing for my kids that she didn't do for us...it's me sitting out in the driveway while the kids play in front of the house, while the other moms on the street are inside watching tv....demanding that my child be moved to another class when one of her classmates threatened to stab her...Overprotective is a word that's overused to tell careful parents that they need to slack off like everybody else. It's generally considered a criticism.
.demanding that my child be moved to another class when one of her classmates threatened to stab her....
Someone told you that was being overprotective?
If my child was in school with a future guest star on America's Most Wanted and I thought it was a legitimate threat I'd do the same thing. I wouldn't care what they called me.
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