13 yr. old boy and 10 yr. old girl in the same bed?! (stepmother, wife)

[djacques]

Originally Posted by Oleg Bach

The young male may be developed or he may still be a 9 year old mentally and physically...Still what this reminds me of is the story about the little boy...I think he was about 6...touched the butt of a little girl at school- and the cops took the child away in cuffs...I think the adult have issues..and extreme eccentric feminism along with male hate might play a role in this silly crap.

It's kind of an unholy alliance between left-wing male-hatred and right-wing sex-hatred that leads to absurdities like that. Many such cases are catalogued at Ethical Treatment for All Youth

[chris123678]

Children mature quicker these days. I've heard of kids as young as 8 and 9 "playing with themself" if you know what I mean.

[Dorthy]

A 13 year old boy who has a bad relationship with his 10 year old step-sister randomly climbs into bed with her one night. Her reaction is fear. What do you think the reason for him climbing into her bed could possibly be? I'm asking the posters who think that people are overreacting over the situation.

[djacques]

Originally Posted by Dorthy

A 13 year old boy who has a bad relationship with his 10 year old step-sister randomly climbs into bed with her one night. Her reaction is fear. What do you think the reason for him climbing into her bed could possibly be? I'm asking the posters who think that people are overreacting over the situation.

Probably the same as what you think it is. Some of us are simply less astonished and taken aback by it than others.

The situation calls for a blunt clarification of the ground rules for the house, nothing more.

[xxbabeechick]

Originally Posted by djacques

The situation calls for a blunt clarification of the ground rules for the house, nothing more.

I'm sorry. 13 year old's know not to climb into the beds of others. Merely telling him that he should stay away from her bed doesn't address the root of the problem: Why did he go there to begin with?

Put him in therapy, until then keep them from being unsupervised together.

[djacques]

Originally Posted by xxbabeechick

Put him in therapy, until then keep them from being unsupervised together.

Therapy for what?

There has to be some pathology present for "therapy" to work on. There doesn't appear to be one in this case.

[other99]

A 13 year old boy should not be in bed with a 10 year old girl. 13 year old boys have a vastly different mindset than 10 year old boys. If the boy was 10 years old then it would not be so much of a problem.

[xxbabeechick]

Originally Posted by djacques

Therapy for what?

There has to be some pathology present for "therapy" to work on. There doesn't appear to be one in this case.

How can you say that with such authority? You know this kid personally? I'm not saying there is or there isn't. That's for the therapist to suss out.

[Padgett2]

At what age would you draw the line?

Roll the clock ahead two years.... He will be 15 and she will be 12. How about 20 and 17?

Will it still be OK for him to crawl in bed with her? If it's ok now, then it's ok then.

HER bed. it's private.

[thethreefoldme]

There is no way of knowing his intentions from this post alone, however it is better to be safe than sorry. If she was so upset by this encounter it's possible he did touch her, but she is too scared/confused to admit to the extent of what happened. Maybe she doesn't want to get him in more trouble.

I think this is an opportunity for both children to be taught a lesson in healthy boundaries, & someone should help the girl make a specific plan in case any similar situations happen in the future. She should know to trust her gut if anyone (even family, teachers, etc) make her feel uncomfortable & to seek help from someone she trusts ASAP.