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I'm not putting him on child support. All that is going to do is open him up to try and get visitation which I do not want. The less than $200 a month isnt worth it IMO. I am not going to contact him to see her anymore but if he calls and we dont have plans I will allow him to see her. Once she is old enough to talk and tell me whats going on then I will revisit the idea of unsupervised visits. If he goes more than a month without seeing her Im going to change my phone number and erase him from our lives.
So despite all the advice you've gotten to the contrary, you're going to do what you were planning on doing anyway.
By the way, if you collected and saved $200/month X 12 months X 17 years, your daughter would have $40,800 (not counting interest) by the time she graduated from high school. It's hard to understand how that's "not worth it" to you.
So despite all the advice you've gotten to the contrary, you're going to do what you were planning on doing anyway.
By the way, if you collected and saved $200/month X 12 months X 17 years, your daughter would have $40,800 (not counting interest) by the time she graduated from high school. It's hard to understand how that's "not worth it" to you.
I was given advice on both ends. Just because I didnt go with the popular vote doesnt mean I didnt listen to advice.
Is that $200 a month worth my daughter being around people ive never met going places Ive never been and to be subjected to being around drugs. Sure I can tell a judge that I feel its unsafe but come on now we all know he will get granted visitation. Its not worth it. I am my childs advocate. I speak for her since she cant do it herself. And no money will ever be worth her safety. No money will ever be worth my peace of mind to know that my daughter is warm and safe and fed. Have you ever read the stories of evil step parents who abuse the children just because they arent theirs? And the fact that I cant even meet this woman that is supposed to be around my daughter is a red flag. I refuse to be one of the parents who say "I knew I shouldnt have let her go over there but the courts made me" after they find my daughter dead of blunt force trauma. Nope no siree not this kid.
as far as im concerned, if you dont pay child support you dont deserve any rights. its disgusting for someone to have a child and then release themselves of any obligations that come with raising that child.
as far as im concerned, if you dont pay child support you dont deserve any rights. its disgusting for someone to have a child and then release themselves of any obligations that come with raising that child.
Sadly, the world is filled with loser parents who have children, but do not take care of them emotionally or financially. It's hard for kids to know that they had a parent who was not interested or caring enough to be there for them.
So despite all the advice you've gotten to the contrary, you're going to do what you were planning on doing anyway.
By the way, if you collected and saved $200/month X 12 months X 17 years, your daughter would have $40,800 (not counting interest) by the time she graduated from high school. It's hard to understand how that's "not worth it" to you.
Pretty much... It's not like we haven't been down this road before
I was given advice on both ends. Just because I didnt go with the popular vote doesnt mean I didnt listen to advice.
Is that $200 a month worth my daughter being around people ive never met going places Ive never been and to be subjected to being around drugs. Sure I can tell a judge that I feel its unsafe but come on now we all know he will get granted visitation. Its not worth it. I am my childs advocate. I speak for her since she cant do it herself. And no money will ever be worth her safety. No money will ever be worth my peace of mind to know that my daughter is warm and safe and fed. Have you ever read the stories of evil step parents who abuse the children just because they arent theirs? And the fact that I cant even meet this woman that is supposed to be around my daughter is a red flag. I refuse to be one of the parents who say "I knew I shouldnt have let her go over there but the courts made me" after they find my daughter dead of blunt force trauma. Nope no siree not this kid.
If you felt that strongly about it, why the multiple threads asking for advice about putting him on child support?
I don't think we all (or you) know he will be granted visitation - I'd consult an atty before making that assumption....
Yopu posts are really inconsistant - it's ether "drugs' or harmless , "natural pot... "dead of blunt force trama" - I thought you said he's never hit your daughter (or are you referring to his new girlfriend?)
If you felt that strongly about it, why the multiple threads asking for advice about putting him on child support?
I don't think we all (or you) know he will be granted visitation - I'd consult an atty before making that assumption....
Yopu posts are really inconsistant - it's ether "drugs' or harmless , "natural pot... "dead of blunt force trama" - I thought you said he's never hit your daughter (or are you referring to his new girlfriend?)
I was talking about the girlfriend whom ive never met and refuses to introduce us.
I dont think he would ever hurt her. I dont know this woman. I dont know who she allows in her home. Will they smoke around her because I know they both smoke ciggerettes and weed and my dd has athma. Too many variables that I dont like.
I came here and asked for advice. Im obviously feeling very bad about the fact that my daughter doesnt have a dad and I come here to ask the advice of older more experinaced parents. But honestly besides the few that seem to actually want to help all I ever get are snarky replies about how I should have doesn this or thought of that before. I feel so belittled and put down here because of past posts that ive made in the past. I should just creatre a new profile so maybe I could get some honest non biased opinions. Actually I am going to do that.
I would definitely start by taking the photos down of you and your daughter. Protect your privacy on the internet.
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