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Originally Posted by dblackga
Because 15 is NOT close to 'adulthood'. 15 is still a child, and in the vast majority of cases, unable to provide for themselves, support themselves, or have the wisdom to make good decisions about themselves and the world around them. The concept is not controlling a child -- it is teaching a child to control themselves and think and react responsibly. If they need help in that regard, well, that's what a parent is there for. Bad manners, in my book, is attitude out of control -- they are entitled to attitude, but the manners better stay in place as they learn adult ways to communicate displeasure.
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yes you are correct that as long as someone is caring for you and covering expenses, then respect is due. And communication is key in a respectful relationship on both sides-for it is impossible for you to angrily growl at your daughter and then expect her to respond in a calm manner, and vice versa.
however what you are not correct in assuming, and what you did not address in mama bear's writing, was that there is a point in time that parenting is over and the ship has in fact sailed--in this case the metaphor being that in some point of time your child's morality and code of behavior are largely set in stone.
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