Yet another teen dating question. Obsession with Boyfriend.

[Fat E. Mcbutterpants]

Originally Posted by roscomac

The key for me in your original post is that she's an introvert. We tend to favor (and better manage) just one or two close relationships at a time. More than that is really draining. What you perceive as dropping everything for a boy would be for me shifting my focus and managing my energy. It's not something we do on purpose, but it's how it tends to work.

I did this, and my adult daughter has as well. It works itself out.

Ah, now that's different. I had not even considered this possibility. She is truly a pretty shy person. Prefers the indoors, small groups, etc.

[Meyerland]

I would not forbid the relationship, because this is a guaranteed way to cause her to cement herself further to this boy. Bring him further into your family, and invite him over if they want to see each other.

Give her opportunities to bond with her friends. Invite them on weekend trips or shopping trips. Tell her that you will treat her and her friend to something she wants. Maybe have a game night at home one weekend night and either invite the boyfriend or a different friend.

My parents did this for me, and I finally realized what a jerk I was dating. Thank goodness!
They also sent me to college far away.

[Fat E. Mcbutterpants]

All, I have a follow-up. Mid term reports came out, and the grades are almost all C's and a D. This is NOT good.

We've nabbed the electronics, and are trying to use many of the suggestions here. As everyone knows, college (even public) is 'SPENSIVE. We've made that point exceedingly clear to her, and now we try to reverse the trend.

Thanks to all for your encouragement and advice.