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Slovenly was used as an obvious negative to describe one side of the same coin.
I dont know what makes a weight challenged kid go from victim to victimizer or decide to be a bully vs bullied but hopefully the article/study cited above will be a start to sorting that out.
The study determined that children develop this behavior before they even start school. That means being the victim of bullying at school isn't the cause. It also says that overweight children are more likely to be victims and bullies than thinner peers. That means the thinner peers are less likely to be bullies or victims.
The article has one sentence speculating that bullies decide to be bullies after being victims. That's illogical since the study determined these behaviors existed prior to starting school. If it is true, who was bullying them before they became school aged? Their families?
Past research indicated that people who are overweight have difficulty with their emotions and have abnormal eating behaviors. This study identifying these issues at a significantly younger age indicates that the root of these emotional and eating problems occur before they are school aged. IMO, it's pointing to families---environment and/or mental health genetics.
I think the conclusion hit the mark: the key is building self esteem and apparently that needs to start at a very young age.
But I wish the article elaborated more on this part of the study it mentions:
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Lead researcher Pauline Jansen and her colleagues at Erasmus University Rotterdam took into account other factors that might increase the risk of bullying or being bullied. Those factors included age, sex, national origin and mother's level of education, as well as whether the child had siblings or lived with a single parent.
Bullies usually have a sense of entitlement and superiority over others, and lack compassion, impulse control and social skills. They enjoy being cruel to others and sometimes use bullying as an anger management tool, the way a normally angry person would punch a pillow. Research does support the fact that bullies have low empathy, and they really don’t know how it feels to be in someone else’s shoes.
From the article you linked, the following matches exactly what Jersey posted: bullies have low self esteem and they use bullying to improve their self esteem.
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As long as the bully is able to manipulate another person or a situation, his/her self-esteem remains high. Once a bully loses control of their victim, or realizes that they can’t manipulate situations to their liking they begin to experience problems with their self esteem and they will then seek out other people to manipulate and control to raise their self-esteem. It almost becomes an emotional fix that they need in order to feel good about themselves.
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