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We had our "whoops" baby when I was 46 , our youngest was graduating college that year and we had celebrated our 25 th wedding anniversary.it was a total shock, I was told 20 years earlier there could be no more
I have stayed very "young for my age "( and fortunately, look a lot younger.)it was never an issue. Easiest delivery (usual escape hatch) and pregnancy. I did go to a high risk doc.i was and am very healthy.
He is our only son. He has been a blessing, easy,kind guy, wonderful friends,and just started college at a Big 10 school.
Dad's retirement plans were delayed, but we have had a blast and wonder what DID we all do without him.
Sugar coating, whatever, we have no regrets. It's been a privilege to be his mom.
My grandmothers had babies into their early to mid 40's. If this baby had been naturally conceived, I'd think the mother had a good chance of longevity because her body was staying young. With IVF, I think she is defying Mother Nature. No one has the promise of tomorrow. I think the odds are against her. She's setting this child up for a potentially difficult life.
69 is not so old! Really, there are so many variables. In parts of this country, and in certain social groups, people do not marry until their mid 20s to early 30s and the first kid comes along several years later. The last could be up to a decade later.
I am more shocked when I see people in their late 30s with GRANDCHILDREN!
That's my moment of "eeeeK"!
And, as other posters have pointed out, older dad's seem to get a pass here. Not sure why.
Yeah, I agree. I went to a gathering of old friends I had not seen in some time, and attending was a friend of a friend who was 34 and a new grandma.....:ee k:
If her grandchild followed her and her child's footsteps (having a kid at 17), she will soon be a great grandma.
I think it's selfish. And yes, when older dad's have babies too.
A 20 year old shouldn't have to start worrying about nursing homes and funeral arrangements. There's a good chance she will not have her parents at her wedding. Her children may never know their grandmother, unless she starts early.
To each his or her own, but it's not very considerate to the child in my opinion.
My friend had buried her mother at 19 and her mom had her very young.
Reading that made me feel happy. I'm 37 & have a 20 year old and a 7 month old. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only person in the world that has such a large age gap between children.
Being an older parent isn't ideal but as long as the child is loved and cared for its really nobody's business how old the parents are.
Personally, I'm done. No more babies for me.
I worked with a pregnant lady who had a 10 yr old and a 20 yr old. Nothing like even spacing! lol
This is nothing more than a "interesting news" story IMO. There is no right or wrong about it. I personally could have had another child in my mid-to-late 40's without skipping a beat. I'm 56 now and unable to but I wouldn't want to anyway. Once the door shut I didn't want back in the barn! LOL!
I think it's selfish. And yes, when older dad's have babies too.
A 20 year old shouldn't have to start worrying about nursing homes and funeral arrangements. There's a good chance she will not have her parents at her wedding. Her children may never know their grandmother, unless she starts early.
To each his or her own, but it's not very considerate to the child in my opinion.
I think having my son was the most unselfish thing I could have done. There was a way out, wouldn't consider it.
Too many different situations to spout negative generalizations for all.
I Wouldn't tell a woman she should wait till then, but, i have met many older moms who have positive situations. Certainly more older moms then when I had my daughters in my 20's.
The times, they are a changin'.
If a woman is healthy,fit, financially secure, and future plans laid for the child, god bless em.
My grandmothers had babies into their early to mid 40's. If this baby had been naturally conceived, I'd think the mother had a good chance of longevity because her body was staying young. With IVF, I think she is defying Mother Nature. No one has the promise of tomorrow. I think the odds are against her. She's setting this child up for a potentially difficult life.
My grandmothers had babies into their early to mid 40's. If this baby had been naturally conceived, I'd think the mother had a good chance of longevity because her body was staying young. With IVF, I think she is defying Mother Nature. No one has the promise of tomorrow. I think the odds are against her. She's setting this child up for a potentially difficult life.
So did many people in my family - grandmothers, great and gg aunts etc.
For me, 51 is a better age than, say; 15!
In addition, today's 51 year old is nothing like a 51 year old of the previous generation.
No one does have the promise of tomorrow. And, people who do not care for themselves, eat terribly and are not at all health conscious, can easily pass away in their late 40s, 50s and 60s.
Women are by nature, longer lived than are men. My friend's mother is 89. She started her family a little late because she had a profession. She could pass for her 60s. She's fashionable and vibrant.
However, I agree that it is not optimal. However, having a baby young while poor and ill educated? That is almost always a bad recipe.
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Nothing like even spacing! lol
