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I didn't know so many CD posters set such a low bar for their kids. Seriously, high school drop out on parole for selling cocaine. Raise your hand if you'd be happy if your child chose this for a mate.
I have two grown daughters, and no, that situation would not make me happy.
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Parents do not "set bars" for their kids in the first place. What in the world???
And that was his PAST, not the present you are trying to hold against him. In fact, even the OP says he is doing well now, something you have somehow forgot about and made into a present situation. Nice try though
"Set the bar" is an expression. People get too analytical over a word or two on this board.
Of course we do! At the very least, we expect they acknowledge the advantages they have been given, and make use of their potential.
I'm sure the OP is thrilled he's being judged over his honest and understandable concern for his daughter.
N9....parents give their kids opportunities and help them achieve everything they can...we don't set bars that they must hurdle like a trained pony to receive our love and support.
Having concern for a child is one thing...to say the child is a disappointment because they didn't do things exactly as you wanted is quite another.
I do hope that op thinks about this...because in an ironic twist...he's getting a taste....with a lot less impact..... of how he is treating his own child. You all cry for him being judged online when he choose to put out his story...but think it's fine he bad mouths his own child.
Of course we do! At the very least, we expect they acknowledge the advantages they have been given
No we don't. Again, you aren't that great and NEITHER AM I. No need for pats on the back for being parent
Yes, we encourage their potential. And we support them, we do not measure them to some bar we've set for them
There is no BAR Set they need to measure up to. Sickening and no one who thinks such... should be a parent
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I'm sure the OP is thrilled he's being judged over his honest and understandable concern for his daughter.
Honesty is not judgement.
The OP needs to get help for this resentment towards his daughter. Same advice goes for you if you support such with your own kin
N9....parents give their kids opportunities and help them achieve everything they can...we don't set bars that they must hurdle like a trained pony to receive our love and support.
Having concern for a child is one thing...to say the child is a disappointment because they didn't do things exactly as you wanted is quite another.
I do hope that op thinks about this...because in an ironic twist...he's getting a taste....with a lot less impact..... of how he is treating his own child. You all cry for him being judged online when he choose to put out his story...but think it's fine he bad mouths his own child.
Where are you getting that the OP feels his daughter should have done "exactly as (he) wanted"? I am not seeing that. I think that is vastly different than being disappointed in the path she is currently on.
I have two grown daughters, and no, that situation would not make me happy.
I am sorry to interject truth here but the post you are replying to, a high school drop out selling cocaine is a lie. It is his PAST. He was only in his twenties and has since, held a job and gotten his GED. He's bought a house even, with the OP's daughter.
So these lies that keep being spread are spread for a reason. The past is the past though some want it to be the present.
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"Set the bar" is an expression. People get too analytical over a word or two on this board.
Yes I imagine that happens. It is the entire post we need to read to understand the context, and even then, more posts as it unfolds. We all use poor wording sometimes, no biggie.
Unfortunately that certainly doesn't appear the case here.
No we don't. Again, you aren't that great and NEITHER AM I. No need for pats on the back for being parents
what in the world??
Yes, we encourage their potential. And we support them, we do not measure them to some bar we've set for them
But there is no BAR Set they need to measure up to. That is sickening and no one who thinks such should be a parent at all
What in the world??
Honesty is not judgement.
The OP needs to get help for this resentment towards his daughter. Same advice goes for you if you support such with your own kin
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ScarletG, what part of we talk, hang out, laugh, joke, text, talk did you miss in the conversation? We are not confrontational at all it's water under the bridge!!
I am still disappointed with HER choices!! I can love her and not approve or be okay with what she is doing!! I'm confused with your logic. If she was always happy said "Dad, I love my house, I love being a homeowner, love my job, life couldn't be better!" it would be different, but there is a recurring theme. "Dad, I'm so broke we are broke!", "XXXX is going to ask his dad for a loan", " Dad, I hate my job I want to quit so bad, but I can't I have to work!" This is a record that is on repeat.........I just support and say "I love ya girl! I'm sorry......" and try to make her laugh or talk about something happy.
No....since you deleted your post...I do not have a low performing child...I have a 20 year old who just finished her sophomore year of college with a 3.6 GPA and holds down a job. Is she perfect? Darn close in my eyes..but no...and she's made choices that are not what I would have done....but you don't trash you child because if that. You help them be the best they can be in the ways that are important to them.
As a parent at some point you have to figure out its not all about you.
No....since you deleted your post...I do nkt have a low performing child...I have a 20 year old who just finished her sophomore year of college with a 3.6 GPA and holds down a job. Is she perfect? Darn close in my eyes..but no...and she's made choices that are not what I would have done....but you don't trash you child because if that. You help them be the best they can be in the ways that are important to them.
As a parent at some point you have to figure out its not all about you.
I actually think she was replying to my post, assuming that I had a low performing child.
Wow, a low performing child. That says volumes
But your reply is akin to what I would say so it saved me the time. Thank you
ScarletG, what part of we talk, hang out, laugh, joke, text, talk did you miss in the conversation? We are not confrontational at all it's water under the bridge!!
I am still disappointed with HER choices!! I can love her and not approve or be okay with what she is doing!! I'm confused with your logic. If she was always happy said "Dad, I love my house, I love being a homeowner, love my job, life couldn't be better!" it would be different, but there is a recurring theme. "Dad, I'm so broke we are broke!", "XXXX is going to ask his dad for a loan", " Dad, I hate my job I want to quit so bad, but I can't I have to work!" This is a record that is on repeat.........I just support and say "I love ya girl! I'm sorry......" and try to make her laugh or talk about something happy.
Don't worry about it Dad. Some of us understand where you are coming from.
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it's water under the bridge!! 
