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Lots of people leave their kids' hair long when they're little. If he doesn't like it, he can tell his mother. But it's certainly nothing for anyone else to worry about.
Unless it's a health or safety issue-- or if the mother is ASKING specifically for her mother's opinion on her grandson's hair, your friend (and you-- and everyone else) would do well to KEEP OUT OF IT and mind your own business. It's HAIR-- not a malignant tumor that they're ignoring.
But, if your friend wants to drive a wedge between herself and her daughter and son-in-law, the by all means, speak up about his hair-- but my best advice as both a daughter and a daughter-in-law is for her to keep her mouth shut.
I couldn't help but think of this thread today when looking at a friends facebook page.....this is one of the the little boys I know that happens to have long hair (age 4)and was at a Renn faire today with his parents. The faire had sword craft 'lessons for the little kids with wooden swords.
My friend's son...with the long curls took part...he got bruised and a bit terrorized (I saw the video) by another little boy his age that was sporting a crew cut. That boys father was in the back ground screaming for him to 'finish' him and the staff had to step in because this kid was trying to brain my little friend. This was supposed to be a light fun activity for children at a renn faire...not Game of Thrones.
Hum....so long hair means uncivilized and short hair is civilized, that boy and his father missed the memo...and it againest proves you can't judge people by superficial standards.
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Well, good to know we-and I am not the grandma, my friend is-are just naive and ''out of touch'' as it plays out.
Though I am from the ''hippie'', not ''hipster'' generation, I still think the top knot look is stupid.
That said, I am also not of the ''pc generation'', so I say what I think, not what I think others want to hear.
We can all rest easy here in ''old fogeyville''...the kid is only two and is already assimilated into the latest fashion and rave!
I'll pass the word on to the rest of the fretting friends and family...not to worry, not to worry!
LOL
There are cultural mores that you feel are violated. You are definitely not open minded as you like to think you are. Your sarcasm is noted and your calling your worldview "old fogeyville" is simply showing how you were raised.
Different cultures have different reasons for allowing the hair to grow. If I were to walk a mile in your shoes, I would probably be fretting as well. But I am Native American and I don't see your friend as naive or out of touch.
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I am as open-minded as they come, but I feel sorry for the kid and think it looks ridiculous.
If the child lives in an area where it seems "anything goes" as far as the way people dress and how they wear their hair, there is may be no reason for concern. If the child lives is a conservative area where he is going to look extremely different from all the other boys, there is a problem. If anyone takes their innocent child and throws them into school looking conspicuously different from all the other children, that is wrong. Some kids are cruel to others from the earliest ages, and everyone knows the who receives most of the cruelty ~ the child who looks different.
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