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Recently, I had contracted MRSA but was cleared as of yesterday. My wife, being the control freak that she is, said she doesn't want me touching our daughter for a week. We start to argue and we just go around and around in circles. WTF do I do here?
How old is your daughter? If she's an infant, I don't blame your wife for being cautious.
THAT being said BOTH OF YOU need to speak with your doctor about your wife's concern, this isn't a "right or wrong" issue here. I hope that isn't how you play out your marriage because spouses who want to be "right" usually end up divorced.
So is your question about touching your daughter or about gathering support for your wife being wrong? If your wife being wrong is the more important issue, she's not the only one with issues. Glad you are in marriage counseling and i hope you are open to some introspection.
Re the baby - I can understand your wife's hesitancy with an infant - - I agree with Mattie that communication with your doctor and perhaps the pediatrician as well would help.
What is the big deal with waiting a week? Have your doctor call her and she can check with your pediatrician too.
Being protective of an infant or children in general is completely normal for mothers. If you had carried another human being in your body for almost a year to protect it while being uncomfortable and possibly sick and inconvenienced you would understand. Narcissism has nothing at all to do with it, nothing.
Having to prove you are right and the other is wrong is one of the worst things one can do in a marriage. I've been married for 28 years, I don't really care to be proven right/wrong but I do care to be respected.
Your wife's wishes may seem unreasonable to you but in the grand scheme of things its a week, ease her mind, give her the relief she seeks and respect her wishes. She is just making sure she protects your child
This "who is in the right" thinking won't help you solve problems and will make marriage much harder than it has to be. Empathizing with your wife's fear for your baby's safety and trying to find a solution that allays her concerns will be much better for your marriage. In this case, as others have posted, all you need to do is ask the doctor. If you were focused on solving problems and not winning points, this would be obvious to you. Your baby needs you and your wife to work together as a team.
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