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I'm 5 months pregnant with twin baby boys. I'm 27 and their father (who's 35) and I had a FWB-type relationship for about 3 months before I got pregnant. We were irresponsible a few times and didn't use a condom. It's my fault as well.
He's not a bad guy even though he can't remain faithful to any woman. We both have stable jobs, our own house and a fairly good income.
At first I didn't know what to do and we agreed I would have an abortion. However, I didn't have the courage to go ahead with that. I don't know about other women but from the moment I knew I was pregnant, I felt immensely protective over that new being growing inside me...before I knew there were two of them. The fact that it was unplanned and the father was not exactly the love of my life was irrelevant.
I told him I wanted to go ahead with the pregnancy and his reaction wasn't bad. He said he would support whatever decision I took.
However, I've been getting patronizing looks and comments especially from older relatives because the situation isn't ideal. They look at me like "poor girl, her life is ruined, single mother for eternity".
I don't feel like that at all, I'm just so glad that both babies are healthy so far and I haven't had any complications. I also have amazing parents who, despite being very conservative, have supported me since I told them the news.
Why should you feel bad? You are being a responsible adult and owning up to your actions. You and your friend knew what could happen if you didn't use prevention. Sounds like he is also owning up, so good for him. Hopefully he will support you and them.
Why should you feel bad? You are being a responsible adult and owning up to your actions. You and your friend knew what could happen if you didn't use prevention. Sounds like he is also owning up, so good for him. Hopefully he will support you and them.
Nope. You shouldn't feel bad. You already feel like their mother!
Love your babies, be the best mom you can be, don't ever take your stress out on your babies, be very frugal and save as much money as you can for emergencies and possibly to hire some help. Don't rely too much on your family if they seem reluctant to help you. And don't have too high of expectations of your babies' father.
It's your decision, it's your life, it's nobody else's business. You do not ever have to rationalize, justify, defend, or explain your decision about anything to anybody. Ever. Period.
have fun with your babies! i am a mom of twins. in many ways it is easier than parenting a single baby. it sounds like you are making the right choice for you which is all that matters. You sound like you have a stable life and mature realistic outlook. Best wishes, good for you for doing what feels right for you. You're not a 16 year old trying to finish high school. You're 27 with a house and a job and financial stability. The deck is stacked for success in your favor.
It's obviously a very bad idea you to have children. Please talk to the folks at Planned Parenthood. Keep in mingd as well that these children have a very high chance compared to the average of dropping out of school, commiting criminal acts, and repeating your mistake. Abortion is the answer. If it is past the legal time, you can take a trip to Mexico or another country for a safe abortion.
Don't sentence two children to a life of deprivation and desperation.
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Hopefully he will support you and them.
