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If mom and kid work together, there's a decent chance mom knows more than kid thinks (or at least suspects - denial can be a powerful thing).
Unless you happen to bear direct witness to drinking/drug usage, stay far clear of this. If Mom really doesn't know and/or is in denial, she's not going to want to hear it from you - and what if it turns out to be untrue?
In any case, you're going to look like a nosy busybody at best, and a lying gossiper at worst. Stay away from it.
Thanks to many of you for the helpful answers. To clarify a couple things, the coworker is 18, (but lives at home and still has all her basic needs met by her parents), while her brother who engages in the alleged activity with her just turned 16. I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother). However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party. I would rather not worry the mother and upset a family's harmony, as well as the harmony between myself and my coworkers (which happens to be very good), all based on what I only presently know to be a rumor.
Thanks to many of you for the helpful answers. To clarify a couple things, the coworker is 18, (but lives at home and still has all her basic needs met by her parents), while her brother who engages in the alleged activity with her just turned 16. I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother). However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party. I would rather not worry the mother and upset a family's harmony, as well as the harmony between myself and my coworkers (which happens to be very good), all based on what I only presently know to be a rumor.
So you were the tattletale in school? Did you ask if you could take names when the teacher left the room?
Most teenagers drink and smoke pot at one time or another. I did and everyone I know did. That was 40+ years ago but I don't think things have changed that much. If you tell on them you risk getting your ass kicked and maybe you should for telling on someone that is doing what is normal behavior for most people at that age.
Thanks to many of you for the helpful answers. To clarify a couple things, the coworker is 18, (but lives at home and still has all her basic needs met by her parents), while her brother who engages in the alleged activity with her just turned 16. I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother). However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party. I would rather not worry the mother and upset a family's harmony, as well as the harmony between myself and my coworkers (which happens to be very good), all based on what I only presently know to be a rumor.
Just because someone shares some gossip with you, that does not make it your business.
Thanks to many of you for the helpful answers. To clarify a couple things, the coworker is 18, (but lives at home and still has all her basic needs met by her parents), while her brother who engages in the alleged activity with her just turned 16. I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother).
However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party. I would rather not worry the mother and upset a family's harmony, as well as the harmony between myself and my coworkers (which happens to be very good), all based on what I only presently know to be a rumor.
Listening to and hearing unfounded gossip does NOT make it your business, no matter what you think..! Period..!!
Repeating unfounded gossip is even worse than listening to it. You're trying hard to be a hero, and what you will do if you say anything, is to make sure all involved will hate you. If your goal is to stir up a real mess and be right is the middle of it, go tell mom right away.. No one like a nosy neighbor.
Your work days will not be so pleasant once you stir the pot and everyone turns against you...
So, I'm in a bit of a pickle and need some advice. I work at at job where I have several coworkers. Recently, I was told by Coworker A that Coworker B (a teenager), and her even younger teenage brother, smoke marijuana and drink alcohol behind their mother's back (their mother happens to be Coworker C. So, mother and daughter work at the same job with me). Coworker A told me Coworker B told her this, and that is how she knows.
Do I tell Coworker C about this, considering alcohol poisoning, drunk driving, and marijuana laced with harder drugs are all possible dangerous consequences? Coworker A (who is a teenager, herself) does not want to "snitch" to Coworker C. Or should I keep my mouth shut since I heard this secondhand? Do I have a duty to tell Coworker C, if I think it even might be true, and let Coworker C get to the bottom of things with her own children? Coworker C has no clue about any of this and even talks about how good her kids are and that she's thankful they are not into stuff like drugs and alcohol!!! I realize that, if I divulge what I was told to Coworker C, Coworkers A and B will probably know it was I who told her, and will both be angry with me...
Help!!! TIA!!!
Unless you see it for yourself, you are only passing on hearsay.
Even then, is it really any of your business?
I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother). However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party.
Ummmm.....no. Just because you were told some juicy information about someone does NOT make it "your business"!! Good grief! Do you really believe it does?!? No, no, and just no.
You were told some gossip. May be true. Might not be true. You don't know.
As previously asked, were you the tattler in school? Now the tattler at work?
So, I'm in a bit of a pickle and need some advice. I work at at job where I have several coworkers. Recently, I was told by Coworker A that Coworker B (a teenager), and her even younger teenage brother, smoke marijuana and drink alcohol behind their mother's back (their mother happens to be Coworker C. So, mother and daughter work at the same job with me). Coworker A told me Coworker B told her this, and that is how she knows.
Do I tell Coworker C about this, considering alcohol poisoning, drunk driving, and marijuana laced with harder drugs are all possible dangerous consequences? Coworker A (who is a teenager, herself) does not want to "snitch" to Coworker C. Or should I keep my mouth shut since I heard this secondhand? Do I have a duty to tell Coworker C, if I think it even might be true, and let Coworker C get to the bottom of things with her own children? Coworker C has no clue about any of this and even talks about how good her kids are and that she's thankful they are not into stuff like drugs and alcohol!!! I realize that, if I divulge what I was told to Coworker C, Coworkers A and B will probably know it was I who told her, and will both be angry with me...
Help!!! TIA!!!
It would be best to tell your co-workers to quit spreading gossip about another co-worker and walk away from them when the conversation goes in that direction.
Thanks to many of you for the helpful answers. To clarify a couple things, the coworker is 18, (but lives at home and still has all her basic needs met by her parents), while her brother who engages in the alleged activity with her just turned 16. I also don't agree that it is not my business, as the information was furnished to me (completely unsolicited by myself), at which time it became my business (and, of course, would certainly be the business of the children's mother). However, I am going to wait for anything more substantial than what I have been told by a third party. I would rather not worry the mother and upset a family's harmony, as well as the harmony between myself and my coworkers (which happens to be very good), all based on what I only presently know to be a rumor.
I'd let my friend, including her kids know this rumor is making the rounds. Tell all 3 of them together. Then let them deal with it.
If its true, you did all of them a favor and things will change.
If it isn't true, you alerted your friend to malicious gossip that she can address.
Not saying anything if she is your friend is wrong imo.
Tell B and/or brother that this info is going around (no need to name the informant), and it's only a matter of time before mama hears about it.
Leave it at that.
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I work at at job where I have several coworkers. Recently, I was told by Coworker A that Coworker B (a teenager), and her even younger teenage brother, smoke marijuana and drink alcohol behind their mother's back (their mother happens to be Coworker C. So, mother and daughter work at the same job with me). Coworker A told me Coworker B told her this, and that is how she knows.
Do I have a duty to tell Coworker C, if I think it even might be true, and let Coworker C get to the bottom of things with her own children? Coworker C has no clue about any of this and even talks about how good her kids are and that she's thankful they are not into stuff like drugs and alcohol!!!
I realize that, if I divulge what I was told to Coworker C, Coworkers A and B will probably know it was I who told her, and will both be angry with me...
