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I am SO angry! It's really great I found a parenting forum because I need it. Why is it kids that defend themselves no matter how justifiable get in trouble?? My daughter who is 16 was walking to one of her classes when a boy started heckling her, when she told him to scram (what she said was worse, my daughter isn't afraid to stand up for herself) he grabbed her rear!
Now lots of other girls would be in shock or so surprised they just take it and tell a teacher but not my daughter. She immediately turned around, punched him in the face two times. Now my daughter is 5'10, takes martial arts and even lifts weights as well as other physically demanding things so she can hit pretty hard!
Well before even my daughter could tell what happened the boy (who is part of the football team no less) went straight to the principal so I get a call at work and immediately go up there. And my daughter is there and so is the boy with his mother and he is CRYING and bleeding from his nose! She got him good but was acting like the victim. The principal told me my daughter was suspended for five days and the whole "violence is never acceptable" speech despite HIM grabbing my daughter!
Even the boys mother was giving me real dirty looks. My daughter explained her case and it was obviously self-defense but that didn't seem to matter. Not that I want my daughter to use violence but in that case it was certainly justified.
I took my daughter home and said she was in the right and she wouldn't be in trouble at home.
But again, while I don't advocate violence I am proud of her, proud of her for not just taking it and turning this football player into a cry baby
I still find it absurd my daughter was suspended. I hate this zero tolerance or zero brain approach schools have.
She should have went straight to the principal, obviously the principal took action, but by taking matters into her own hands now she is the one in trouble. Assault / battery charges could still be filed against her.
She should have went straight to the principal, obviously the principal took action, but by taking matters into her own hands now she is the one in trouble. Assault / battery charges could still be filed against her.
I agree.
You say you don't advocate violence, yet in the same post you're bragging about how big and strong she is and how she can stand up for herself. Well, this is what happens when she stands up for herself with her fists.
FWIW, he also could be charged with misdemeanor sexual battery since he allegedly grabbed her butt. Just because it occurs in a school building doesn't mean it's not a crime.
However, your daughter could also be charged with misdemeanor assault, sooooo ....
You say you don't advocate violence, yet in the same post you're bragging about how big and strong she is and how she can stand up for herself. Well, this is what happens when she stands up for herself with her fists.
FWIW, he also could be charged with misdemeanor sexual battery since he allegedly grabbed her butt. Just because it occurs in a school building doesn't mean it's not a crime.
However, your daughter could also be charged with misdemeanor assault, sooooo ....
That is the thing she did immediately went and told her teacher but the boy went straight to the principles office, like a huge coward, and told them she attacked him for no reason.
Also how was she not in the right hitting him for what he did? If some random guy grabbed some female MMA/boxing fighters rear on the street I am pretty sure he would get punched yet I would think most would consider that appropriate.
That is the thing she did immediately went and told her teacher but the boy went straight to the principles office, like a huge coward, and told them she attacked him for no reason.
Also how was she not in the right hitting him for what he did? If some random guy grabbed some female MMA/boxing fighters rear on the street I am pretty sure he would get punched yet I would think most would consider that appropriate.
How is she not in the right? Really? There is a reason hitting people is a crime in our society.
If she is trained to fight, what the heck do you think she is going to do???
It's great that she can defend herself if necessary. But she also needs to understand that school has consequences for dealing with problems the way she did. Teach her how to handle it correctly next time.
First unwanted touch = say NO and tell an adult
Second time = tell an adult again
Third time = beat the sh*t out of them
I see no issue with this.
The castrated crap heads running schools these days are not going to teach my kid that people can physically violate you with no consequences.
Using your scenario, the OP's daughter skipped steps one and two and went all the way to step 3.
And FWIW, no one is teaching kids, in our system at least, that people can violate you with no consequences.
No, she only skipped step 2. And honestly, I don't blame her. Let the chips fall where they may with the administration, but maybe this jerk will think twice about putting his hands on a girl again.
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