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I know at some point my sons will have this huge urge to watch adult videos and nude pics. How do I slowly break them in without adverse effects?
I think it's unrealistic to prevent them from seeing nudity on the internet or media. Too many vulgar images onlines and even females running around scantily dressed drawing attention.
I was walking with my sons 12 and 14 in a mall and many girls are wearing shirts that you can visually see their bras and many have butt cheeks peeking out purposely.
I am not here to condemn those girls, but as a concerned father to try to minimize the effects on my sons' sexual behavior.
You don't need to break them in to seeing nudity. It's natural and normal, and just about everyone gets that urge at some point during adolescence. Unless they've been brought up to feel that the human body is shameful, there should be no problem. They'll see breasts and butt cheeks on the beach and in PG-13 movies and in ads on television or at the mall. Have some rules about what is appropriate for them to access online for now, but I don't think you need to worry about exposing them to nudity or sexual innuendo gradually. It just happens.
I'm not sure how your sexual behavior is being affected by teenage girls wearing short shorts or shirts that allow you to see their bras. ??? You're an adult. What teenagers are wearing most definitely should not be affecting your behavior at all.
I am not here to condemn those girls, but as a concerned father to try to minimize the effects on my sons' sexual behavior.
Looking for ideas.
You teach them that what anyone else is wearing in public has nothing to do with their personal behavior, sexual or otherwise.. It's actually pretty easy.
You don't need to break them in to seeing nudity. It's natural and normal, and just about everyone gets that urge at some point during adolescence. Unless they've been brought up to feel that the human body is shameful, there should be no problem. They'll see breasts and butt cheeks on the beach and in PG-13 movies and in ads on television or at the mall. Have some rules about what is appropriate for them to access online for now, but I don't think you need to worry about exposing them to nudity or sexual innuendo gradually. It just happens.
I'm not sure how your sexual behavior is being affected by teenage girls wearing short shorts or shirts that allow you to see their bras. ??? You're an adult. What teenagers are wearing most definitely should not be affecting your behavior at all.
Repped. I never heard of a father "breaking" his sons in to porn. They don't need a parent for that, just an internet connection.
At 12 and 14, I'm pretty sure they are starting to figure things out on their own. Just let them know that you are available to field any questions they may have along the way.
I was walking with my sons 12 and 14 in a mall and many girls are wearing shirts that you can visually see their bras and many have butt cheeks peeking out purposely.
What does the above have to do with your son's sexual behavior?
As for the rest the single most important thing you can teach them regarding pornography is that it is fake and has little in common with most people's sex lives.
My worries is that there are adult content out there that is extreme and easy to get access to on unprotected devices. Hey, these are not content like Porkies.
I'm just concerned about the amount of extreme content out there and I know I can't stop them all but there must be a good way to slowly allow them to absorb the stuff without over indulgence.
I know there are teens who are addicted to porn and it's not good for their sexuality if they don't know how to control themselves.
If they're prevented from watching any adult content until 18, they may suddenly get shell shocked once they've been let out of the cage,
My worries is that there are adult content out there that is extreme and easy to get access to on unprotected devices. Hey, these are not content like Porkies.
I'm just concerned about the amount of extreme content out there and I know I can't stop them all but there must be a good way to slowly allow them to absorb the stuff without over indulgence.
I know there are teens who are addicted to porn and it's not good for their sexuality if they don't know how to control themselves.
If they're prevented from watching any adult content until 18, they may suddenly get shell shocked once they've been let out of the cage,
Yes indeed vision33r~ It's actually fairly normal for young boys to realize the differences between themselves and young women. Actually your boys will get exposed to it in a more aberrant way socially. However, as a parent it's important to teach them "BOUNDARIES"..in that They a young men have NO right to ACT on their instinctual feelings. Teach respect to them, so that they can have a healthy relationship with females as they get older.
No Parent can shield their son's ( daughters as well for that matter) that sexual physical desires is one thing..BUT acting on them is quite another. IF one doesn't respect themselves or the opposite sex..then it becomes a horrible situations. Teaching our kids the requirement to Respect themselves maybe the most benefit.. Because there will always be some rather loose girls out their who LACK Self-respect out there..which baits, teases and looks for similar experimentation..or feeding some sort of need for short term meeting a gratification which is socially frowned about!
Bottomline~ Teaching self-respect is a top priority..not to shame them or ridicule their normal instinctual responses. Try to help them put it into perspective..That's what I did for both my boyz..and it sure does make a difference in how they perceive inter-personal relationships with the opposite sex..Good luck OP
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