News, After a parent's death, some bloom. (parents, children, high school)

[JD59]

(LifeWire) -- The death of a mother or father can be emotionally wrenching -- particularly for children who had a difficult or complicated relationship with their parents. But for others, it can also be a time for personal growth and renewal.

After a parent's death, some bloom - CNN.com

[regarese]

Sadly, I think this will be the case for me when my mother dies.

[StarLite]

I recently lost both my parents. I lost my mom in Oct. 2006 and my dad in Nov. 2007. I don't feel I've grown or bloomed. Well, I may have some relief with my mom cause she was ill and it was difficult to be around her and I wasn't very close to her. But the relief is that she's not suffering anymore. I knew it was coming but you can never be fully prepared.

My dad was different. It was unexpected. He died in his sleep. My sister had gotten calls from friends concerned about my dad. She went over there and found him on the couch. A big shock to say the least. I miss them both but again my dad was different. We had just seen him the week before for Thanksgiving.

[fllover]

Regarese,

I am with you on this one, I feel the same way as sad as it may sound.

StarLite,

You probably had better parents than Regarese & I. I'm sorry for your loss, may God bless!

[therewego]

Wow, this is fitting...lately I have been thinking of my parents. My father's anniversary is coming up and my mother's birthday is coming up so I am feeling very emotional lately; both have passed away.
Now that I am a parent I wish:
My parents could have met my kids like they met my siblings' kids;
I had talked more to my own parents;
I had the guidance I hear that my friends get from their parents;

So perhaps I have grown; I have more regrets about my parents and wish to be a better parent to my own kids.
Please, if you still have your parents, talk to them about when you were little, what silly things you did; hug them so you can remember how it feels; see if they can write you a note you can always treasure when they are gone.

[charolastra00]

I wish growth or at least healing would happen for all children.

My best friend in high school lost her mother on the first day if our junior year in high school. She went to school in the morning and her mother was fine but by lunch, her brother came to pick her up and they did not make it to the hospital in time. Her mother had cancer but her death was completely unexpected.

After that, she became a pathological liar. I believed it all because why wouldn't I? She came up with elaborate lies that she was acting for an Atlanta theatre group, that she went on all these trips, and even that she was shooting for a pilot in a TV show. It sounds ridiculous but why wouldn't I believe her? In the end, she told me she got into Yale early decision (in October when decisions wouldn't go out until at least January) and that she went to Santorini, Greece (without any pictures and her ISP logging into my online journal daily). She wasn't a bad person but her mother's death really changed her.

[Beretta]

Originally Posted by therewego

Wow, this is fitting...lately I have been thinking of my parents. My father's anniversary is coming up and my mother's birthday is coming up so I am feeling very emotional lately; both have passed away.
Now that I am a parent I wish:
My parents could have met my kids like they met my siblings' kids;
I had talked more to my own parents;
I had the guidance I hear that my friends get from their parents;

So perhaps I have grown; I have more regrets about my parents and wish to be a better parent to my own kids.
Please, if you still have your parents, talk to them about when you were little, what silly things you did; hug them so you can remember how it feels; see if they can write you a note you can always treasure when they are gone.

A very touching post. My best to you.