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OP, think about this: you're REALLY lucky she doesn't have diabetes yet. Diabetes causes heart problems, circulation problems that result in having a foot or limb amputated, it causes strokes, among other things. Eventually, diabetics have to go on kidney dialysis, and eventually, their kidneys fail, if they don't die from a heart attack or stroke, first. She's at a HIGH risk of getting this disease so early in life. It means in some ways, she'll age prematurely and could die at a young age.
This is what you and your spouse have enabled. To learn more about it, talk to your doctor. Study nutrition, and learn what foods cause insulin to spike. (Starches metabolize as sugar, and have the same effect as sugar in the system. This includes popcorn and chips, corn, potatoes, white rice, bread, especially white bread. Some fruits should be avoided as well: bananas, pineapple, as well as ALL fruit juices.) Your daughter's metabolic hormones are out of control. Learn how to re-establish hormonal balance.
Exercise helps control blood sugar, and especially--building lean muscle mass works wonders.
She could learn all of this at a "fat farm camp". While she's at camp, you and your spouse can get your own act together, and wean yourselves off of "cheat foods". Really, your daughter's life is at stake.
I also might recommend psychological counseling for her. Going to fat camp will be a huge adjustment for her, and she'll probably need help processing that. There also might be underlying emotional issues to her overeating. For success in turning this around, a holistic approach would get the best results; treating the mind as well as the body.
Good luck, OP! It won't be easy to turn this around; it will require change on your part, too. But it could be a healing experience, when all is said and done.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 06-25-2017 at 11:51 PM..
How can she eat junk going out with her friends? Where does she get the money? How did she get to be 200 lbs., and why did you wait until now to discuss healthy eating, exercise, and all that, with her?
How have you raised your kids? Have you bought them sweet drinks (carbonated, or Kool-Aid, or what4ever), and fed them a lot of starches and empty calories? (Bread, potatoes, corn, starchy casseroles) Have you given the kids sweet treats? (desserts, kept bags of cookies in the house, chips, sweet rolls or pop tarts for breakfast or weekend breakfasts as a treat)
because she and her friends like to eat junk. We gave her the money We had a lot of fatty foods in the house over the years. Every year she got bigger and bigger but once my husband & I " woke up" about our own weight, we woke up about theirs as well.
This is the behavior of an addict. This is what alcoholics do.
Are there any psychological issues present? Does she eat to compensate for a lack of emotional support and love? What was your and your husband's relationship with her like in the first 5 years of her life? And the next 5?
We love her very much & as far as our relationship with her, we were always the " friend first" type of parents/
During the rare occasion we'd try & talk to her & just lightly say, " Maddie, we're concerned", she'd flip it into, " Well, you & dad are fatter than me & so is Jon."
How many times did she ask you to play, run, bike, etc and you shooed her off?
I don't recall one time because she's always hated exercise so she never wanted to run or bike, our activity with her usually revolved around TV & food
said she had 0 interest in the family walk this morning, ended up going, whined the whole time
Consider listening to some whining your penance for waiting thirteen years to start exercising with her. The walk happened - it was a success. She'll get over the griping as walking gets less uncomfortable and as she sees you're sticking to your guns. Keep being the grown-up and keep modeling good behavior.
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