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Tis the season. My daughter is just about 11 and was showing me the costume she wanted. Its from some strange cartoon from France...and the characters are pretty sexualized in their costumes. The cartoon doesn't bother me so much. But the costume she showed me looked a little like a leather S&M outfit with cat ears.
I was like
I know I have to be realistic because she is pretty much out of the little girl stage in clothing/costumes. But I am just not ready, in a million years to go to that extreme.
I told her I had to talk to her dad and I would let her know.
Oh yeah. Girls' costumes are totally innocent up to about age 11/12 and then they look like wanna-be Playboy Bunnies. My 13-year-old wanted a Red Riding Hood costume, but when we went to the party store and I saw the style they had in her size, I had to say NO.
I nixed whatever my daughter wanted to be last year. It wasn't anything sexual; it was super gory. She was going to a youth group party and also trick-or-treating, and I wasn't going to let her go out in something legitimately scary when she'd be around a bunch of little kids. So she decided to make her own costume and was Robin (from Batman).
This year I think she is planning to go as a medieval prisoner. One of her hobbies is using stage makeup to create disgusting bloody designs. If she wants to use it, I'll let her do so for the youth group party but not for trick or treating (assuming she even wants to go... she's 14 and my son had outgrown ToTing by then).
Ugh, I said no to one last week. My 10 yo son asked to be the grim reaper. After I said no, he responded "what, do you want me to be a super hero or something???? Blah." Then followed up with some other gory-type options... lovely. Should be an interesting negotiation over the next week or two.
Tis the season. My daughter is just about 11 and was showing me the costume she wanted. Its from some strange cartoon from France...and the characters are pretty sexualized in their costumes. The cartoon doesn't bother me so much. But the costume she showed me looked a little like a leather S&M outfit with cat ears.
I was like
I know I have to be realistic because she is pretty much out of the little girl stage in clothing/costumes. But I am just not ready, in a million years to go to that extreme.
I told her I had to talk to her dad and I would let her know.
I am just wondering if others have to say no too?
Lol! No, probably not. If you feel that strongly about it I would go with my gut instinct.
Ugh, I said no to one last week. My 10 yo son asked to be the grim reaper. After I said no, he responded "what, do you want me to be a super hero or something???? Blah." Then followed up with some other gory-type options... lovely. Should be an interesting negotiation over the next week or two.
Everyone's threshold is different. I'd have no issue with such a costume.
Kind of why I'd like to see a picture of the costume the op is talking about. There are tons of sexy costumes that are inappropriate and on the other side tons of over sensitive folks.
I have boys, but yes, one year we just said the costume idea was too gory.
I would veto a sexy costume for a daughter that age. My mom wouldn't let me wear dangly earrings when I was that age lol. She just said they were "too old for me." I accepted that (well, I pouted, of course, but I got over it, and I didn't wear the earrings).
I would say the same thing about a too-sexy costume. "It's too old for you."
Maybe you can tone it down and let her wear parts that aren't soo sexy with different shoes, black tights (instead of fishnet) under a skirt, etc
While I do not recall having to veto any of my own children's costumes various schools (Jr.K to 5th grade) in my area have had to ban entire groups of costumes , "No zombies, No weapons (real or fake), No 'sexy' costumes, etc., etc."
Before the ban, one year we had a group of 5th graders show up in zombie costumes with full zombie make-up that was enough to make the adults have nightmares, let alone being far, far too scary for the four, five and six year olds.
My daughters are 10 and almost 13. We haven't had an issue with any "sexy" costumes. Honestly, I don't think either of my daughters would have any interest in wearing sexy costume anyway. My oldest and a group of her friends are all dressing as super heroes this year. She initially wanted to be Wonder Woman, but decided to nix that when she looked at the costumes available. I think because they were all too revealing. She's going a Super Girl instead. Her choice.
I have nixed any gory costumes. My kids know to not even ask anymore. I also decorate the outside of the house, but still won't do anything gory or death-related. No tombstones or anything like that. Lots of orange and purple lights, a huge light-up Jack-o-Lantern, and a cool rotating projection on the garage with pumpkins, and bats. You don't need all the blood and guts to have fun.
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