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Adult carrying baby stays in family room with a 7 yo 9 yo 12 yo and 5 other adults. Then we have to keep quiet and get shushed and the looks when noise is made?
Thoughts
If I read the read correctly, there are six adults, three children and a baby enjoying a celebration. IMHO, it is the sleeping baby that needs to move to a different room than to "shush" the nine other people and to insist that they stay quiet. If necessary the person holding the baby should leave the party with the sleeping baby to not interrupt everyone else's fun. If the baby absolutely HAS TO BE HELD, (very unlikely) then the baby's mom could take turns with the baby's dad or other relatives to hold the baby,in a bedroom or other room, for the four hour party.
BTW, I attended a four hour party today with a five day old infant and double that amount of people. The baby slept about half the time and never had to be removed from the living room/dining room, even when the preschoolers were playing some rather loud games and the adults were laughing loudly at jokes and funny stories. And, no one asked the adults or children to be quiet because of the baby when it was sleeping.
Last edited by germaine2626; 07-04-2018 at 10:11 PM..
Adult carrying baby stays in family room with a 7 yo 9 yo 12 yo and 5 other adults. Then we have to keep quiet and get shushed and the looks when noise is made?
Thoughts
Were you really expected to remain silent, or just to keep your voices down? I can understand the latter, especially when there are kids included. But, in either case, the onus is on the parent of the baby to see to their comfort, not the entire gathering. As a new parent I learned pretty quickly that insisting on silence while my baby slept was a bad idea anyway. It's much better to let them learn to fall asleep with normal background sounds present.
If I read the read correctly, there are six adults, three children and a baby enjoying a celebration. IMHO, it is the sleeping baby that needs to move to a different room than to "shush" the nine other people and to insist that they stay quiet. If necessary the person holding the baby should leave the party with the sleeping baby to not interrupt everyone else's fun. If the baby absolutely HAS TO BE HELD, (very unlikely) then the baby's mom could take turns with the baby's dad or other relatives to hold the baby,in a bedroom or other room, for the four hour party.
BTW, I attended a four hour party today with a five day old infant and double that amount of people. The baby slept about half the time and never had to be removed from the living room/dining room, even when the preschools were playing some rather loud games. And, no one asked the adults or children to be quiet because of the baby when it was sleeping.
Great points. More than opinion here. This is clearly the right way to do things
Were you really expected to remain silent, or just to keep your voices down? I can understand the latter, especially when there are kids included. But, in either case, the onus is on the parent of the baby to see to their comfort, not the entire gathering. As a new parent I learned pretty quickly that insisting on silence while my baby slept was a bad idea anyway. It's much better to let them learn to fall asleep with normal background sounds present.
Pretty much keep volume at a 2 when we usually are at a 7 or 8 with the 3 older kids making their noise... and in and out of kitchen making food, moving chairs, having adult conversations etc
I have set up a room with bedding, etc when I knew babies and young children were going to be among the guests. I would then let the parents know where they could comfortably hang out when the children were falling asleep. And continue on with talking and usual sounds.
No. It’s the parents(does not live there) responsibility to be considerate (during a family holiday gathering) of others and to go into one of the bedrooms as to not force people in the only main room of the 3 bedroom single story house to be completely silent for an hour?
80% of the correct people will agree with me
I think 99% of courteous people will agree with you.
Grand parents house but yes baby was sleeping in arms anyways. Can easily walk to another room to not affect 8 other people
Seems logical to me, and it's been 20 years, but I always took sleeping baby away to another part of the house. Hopefully had a crib set up in another room so I could go back to the family gathering while kid slept.
The best parents are the people who are not parents....like yourself..lol
Have one on the way. I’ll never allow certain things and bad behavior from my kids at someone else’s home. Even at grandmas house. We’re not running around like a crazy person and walking on furniture and not cleaning up after yourself.
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