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Ok, my better half's daughter turns 21 on October 19.... MY daughter turns 23 on November 25.... My two daughters and her daughter and son and his wife are all in the same age range (21-25).... I'm thinking it might be fun to combo the celebrations and let the kids hang out as they don't get to see each other much due to distance.....
As you can tell by the calendar, my daughter's birthday lands on Thanksgiving weekend, so I would like to plan a celebration a weekend or two before to separate it from the holiday. Stepdaughter is in late October. In my pea brained mind, I think a combo celebration on around November 10 can work.
Or do we just keep them separate? We can't afford to foot the bill for two separate events.
Keeps the stepdaughter's birthday weekend free for a turning 21 night with her friends, and also a dinner with her dad.
Keeps my daughter's birthday weekend free to have a dinner celebration with her mom.
Opinions?
I think that in this age range, the separation of the events (if the issue is raised as being important to them) would supersede the amount spent on each birthday. It's about "having your own" not what you have.
I think that in this age range, the separation of the events (if the issue is raised as being important to them) would supersede the amount spent on each birthday. It's about "having your own" not what you have.
Really? Because in my world, having a special day all about me ended with childhood when it came to extended family celebrations. We'd get together 3-4 times a year and celebrate all the birthdays that had passed since we last gathered.
There is nothing wrong with planning one dinner to acknowledge both birthdays. The trickiest part will likely be finding a date that works for everyone.
Really? Because in my world, having a special day all about me ended with childhood when it came to extended family celebrations. We'd get together 3-4 times a year and celebrate all the birthdays that had passed since we last gathered.
There is nothing wrong with planning one dinner to acknowledge both birthdays. The trickiest part will likely be finding a date that works for everyone.
I think it will ultimately result in two events, possibly with great difference in size between the two. As more people are invited, the chance at a scheduling conflict only increases.
I think it sounds like a very nice idea, although of course, it requires checking with both birthday girls that they are ok sharing the celebration. You sound like a good dad, so I'm guessing you've raised nice kids and presumably married someone who also did, so my prediction is they will be gracious about it and will also enjoy extending their celebration times since they will have friends and the other side of their family to celebrate with as well.
Ok, my better half's daughter turns 21 on October 19.... MY daughter turns 23 on November 25.... My two daughters and her daughter and son and his wife are all in the same age range (21-25).... I'm thinking it might be fun to combo the celebrations and let the kids hang out as they don't get to see each other much due to distance.....
As you can tell by the calendar, my daughter's birthday lands on Thanksgiving weekend, so I would like to plan a celebration a weekend or two before to separate it from the holiday. Stepdaughter is in late October. In my pea brained mind, I think a combo celebration on around November 10 can work.
Or do we just keep them separate? We can't afford to foot the bill for two separate events.
Keeps the stepdaughter's birthday weekend free for a turning 21 night with her friends, and also a dinner with her dad.
Keeps my daughter's birthday weekend free to have a dinner celebration with her mom.
Opinions?
Hey, if they all get along and no one's nose is going to be out of joint, why not combine them? Sounds like a great idea to me.
I think it's super sweet, and refreshing that you're wanting to plan something fun for everyone, and yet still, allow them their own celebration on their terms.
Am surprised that a birthday past their 18th makes a difference. After the 18th wouldn't they just want to do their own thing and rather hang with friends? Celebrating adult birthdays with immediate family over a dinner is as far as we go now. They aren't kids anymore and the decision on how, when, where and with whom is a decision entirely up to them now. They are adults, treat them as such and let them decide.
I think it will ultimately result in two events, possibly with great difference in size between the two. As more people are invited, the chance at a scheduling conflict only increases.
The list would only be us two, my two kids, her two kids and one daughter in-law. The three girls don't currently have boyfriends. At a restaurant, so a group bigger than 7 can start to get unwieldy.
Am surprised that a birthday past their 18th makes a difference. After the 18th wouldn't they just want to do their own thing and rather hang with friends? Celebrating adult birthdays with immediate family over a dinner is as far as we go now. They aren't kids anymore and the decision on how, when, where and with whom is a decision entirely up to them now. They are adults, treat them as such and let them decide.
Well, that's what I was thinking. We go to dinner, then after the dinner the kids can move the party to a club if they want to. And it forces my stepson and his wife to get a sitter and get away from the three year old for a night out. They (now 23 & 22) have been missing out on the fun stuff 23 & 22 year olds do because of the child. One of the other two grandpa's can watch her.
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