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"I don't understand. But I don't care, so it works out."
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OP, I don't know where you live, and if your child has gotten regular well checks by a pediatrician, but these delays would have been questions and investigated long before this, if so.
Has she ever had a well check where her skills were assessed?
You are right to question her development, since she is behind both physically and mentally. The earlier you can address these deficits, the better the outcome.
My FIL did not talk until he was three, and when he did start it was in complete sentences. .
This was my situation as well, and I went on to being in gifted programs and qualifying for Mensa.
OP, you'll just need to give your child time. I had the same concerns with my daughter, and while I can't say she is gifted, she is smarter than most of her classmates and reads a couple grades above her level. Time will tell, but I hope you are not letting her see your discouragement if she's not measuring up to your expectations. Kids pick up on so much that we think we are hiding.
Love your little one, they aren't small for long. Read to her, talk to her, sing stories to her, take her to lots of fun and different places, let her meet a variety of new people.
She will develop on her own schedule. You can mention this to her pediatrician and maybe have her checked for low iron. She still has a lot of growing and developing to do. She will do so at her own pace.
OP, I don't know where you live, and if your child has gotten regular well checks by a pediatrician, but these delays would have been questions and investigated long before this, if so.
Has she ever had a well check where her skills were assessed?
You are right to question her development, since she is behind both physically and mentally. The earlier you can address these deficits, the better the outcome.
We just had a general MD check her out. She'll get her hearing checked soon.
But since she's been about 6 month old, I have noticed she was always late on her milestone (crawling, cruising, etc).
My SO (her mother) is a little worried as well. I guess I came here to see that stories about late talkers or walkers are common. My two sons developped much faster so that's the only reference I have got.
OP, I'm assuming you've tried to talk to your daughter's mother, right? Do you feel like the mother is not being straight with you?
Of course, we are still together. She is a little worried as well, though our daughter is her first child so she doesn't really have something to compare it to.
Of course, we are still together. She is a little worried as well, though our daughter is her first child so she doesn't really have something to compare it to.
You are still with your wife, who is not the mother of your other kids? What is her take on this?
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We just had a general MD check her out. She'll get her hearing checked soon.
But since she's been about 6 month old, I have noticed she was always late on her milestone (crawling, cruising, etc).
My SO (her mother) is a little worried as well. I guess I came here to see that stories about late talkers or walkers are common. My two sons developped much faster so that's the only reference I have got.
In this year of COVID, the girl's mother hasn't likely had the benefit of socializing with a lot of other moms with toddlers, which is SO HELPFUL in spotting any kind of irregularity in a child.
And I'll say - usually fathers are in total denial with developmental issues with their children, and the mothers are usually the ones expressing nagging concerns. In your situation it's the opposite.
It's good that you've had your general MD check her out. She's on the path to being diagnosed to receive treatment, if there is found to be an issue with her development.
WOW, WOW, WOW. REALLY. It has been a long time since I have "seen" such a callous parent. Putting a label of "dumb" on your child. I am hurting for her because clearly you are disappointed, and parental disappointment is an awful burden for a child to have to bear. First you need to get off that high horse you are riding on called "I am gifted and can't deal with the fact that I might have a slow learner or perhaps a mentally challenged child."
Over the span of maybe 40 years, I had the privilege of volunteering weekly while working and then daily with disabled children and I learned a lot more than I ever gave. No, I am unfortunately not a parent, but I chose to work with disabled children to help them reach for the stars. Some stars are closer to the ground than others - but they are all stars, nonetheless. Sometimes you need to actually smell the roses. I hope that you will take the time to read this poem and take it to heart. If, in fact she is mentally challenged, it will be difficult for you, but please, please don't take it out on her.
Oh... I didn’t take the use of the word dumb to be stupid. I took the use of the word dumb to mean nonverbal. Like years ago we used to call deaf people “deaf and dumb” because they couldn’t use speech.
Oh... I didn’t take the use of the word dumb to be stupid. I took the use of the word dumb to mean nonverbal. Like years ago we used to call deaf people “deaf and dumb” because they couldn’t use speech.
We used to call physically challenged, cripples, and mentally challenged, retards, and little people, midgets, but we no longer used such terminology and like you said “years” ago. We have come a long way since that terminology was considered appropriate. Solley can say be nice all he wants, but the comments coming my way indicate that I am not alone in my take on this.
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