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Originally Posted by oregonwoodsmoke
Quite often ( almost always) reasoning with kids and explaining why and setting firm boundaries is what works the best.
But sometimes if what the parent expects doesn't align with what the kids feels he has a right to do, a quick swat on the butt works wonders. Depending upon how willful a child is, a soft cuff is instant negative enforcement and works better than taking away a toy which is something in the future and not as firmly linked to the misbehavior. Get a negative reaction and get it over with and then get on with your life works for some kids or for maybe a different kid under different circumstances.
You can tell a kid over and over to not touch the hot stove and some kids won't stop until they get burned. Then they stop. Sometimes a swat is the equivalent of touching the hot stove.
I agree with the others about looking into why he is doing the pantsing, just in case.
OP, I want to point out that it is a common behavior for boys. It is so common that there is a word to describe the behavior. I don't think the problem is the pantsing. I think the problem is that he won't stop after it has been explained to him that it is not OK.
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Per the bolded --- There are kids who get burned (literally or figuratively) but still repeat the same behavior. I have a brother like that. He often befriends shady people and gets burned, only to do it over and over again.
On to what others have said --- I have a grandson who liked Captain Underpants when he was around the age of the OP's son. Yet he never went around pulling down anyone's pants.
Another concern others expressed is that perhaps an adult had abused the boy. The OP and her spouse need to give this plenty of thought. Do they ever recall an adult expressing an extreme amount of interest in their son? Did their son ever have times when he was alone with anyone like that?
If they think their son may have been abused, I suggest calling Child Help or looking at their website.
www.childhelp.org. Or call their hotline 1-800-4-A CHILD. A counselor can give good advice as to how to proceed.