What's the harm with children seeing their parents naked? (day care, activities, smart)
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I never understood the big deal regarding children seeing mom or dad or other close family members naked in the shower or while changing, etc. In another thread someone suggested that a dad and his 4-year old daughter wear swim suits if they have to shower together. Why? Would the child somehow be harmed by seeing her mom or dad naked or showering with her dad if needed? With a child that small I really don't get what the big deal is. Maybe someone could explain it to me.
As the child gets older it may become awkward for both parties, especially with an opposite sex parent or sibling, but I don't see any problem with going through normal activities that may involve undressing with a small child present. I find it a bit silly to go without showering just because you don't want to take your small child in to the shower with you.
I saw both my parents naked as a child and even came into the men's locker room when I went swimming with my dad and brother. I'm not a least bit damaged by it and it didn't pose a problem at all in any way.
My ex showered with my daughter once when she was about 2, but felt uncomfortable. I give him credit for trying.
I don't want my 4 year old seeing some random man naked or using a urinal. They might not be comfortable with it either. You have no idea what OTHER people might do or say. Lewd comments or sexual gestures can't be un-experienced.
America retains a lot of it's puritanical beliefs from the past. This tends to influence many peoples opinions towards nudity. I like you was raised with a very casual attitude towards nudity. But most of the friends I know were not.
There was never any issue with me seeing my parents undressed when I was little. It was considered a normal thing. My father never bathed me, however, since my mother was a "traditional" stay at home mother and was responsible for my day to day care. I don't think my father would have even known how to bathe a child. LOL
Our kids bathed and showered with us till they were comfortable doing it by themselves--around 4 or 5 I think, it was no big deal. Still at 11 my daughters and i follow each other in and out of the shower almost every day. They have their own bathroom but my shower has the rainhead we all enjoy so they use the master bath shower. I think most kids will let their parents know when they are uncomfortable being naked around their parents and vice versa. This should be respected by all parties.
I never understood the big deal regarding children seeing mom or dad or other close family members naked in the shower or while changing, etc. In another thread someone suggested that a dad and his 4-year old daughter wear swim suits if they have to shower together. Why?
You're not alone. I rolled by eyes at the suggestion they wear swim suits to shower. And I was outright shocked at the people who thought it was best that he leave her alone at the campsite. The child is safer with her father than being left alone. There are a lot of lowlifes at campgrounds---homeless, felons, people running from the law. It's not place to leave children alone. Most young children bath and shower with their parents all the time at home. The camping dad is smart enough to protect her, but he needs to be with her to do so.
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Originally Posted by no kudzu
Our kids bathed and showered with us till they were comfortable doing it by themselves--around 4 or 5 I think, it was no big deal. Still at 11 my daughters and i follow each other in and out of the shower almost every day. They have their own bathroom but my shower has the rainhead we all enjoy so they use the master bath shower. I think most kids will let their parents know when they are uncomfortable being naked around their parents and vice versa. This should be respected by all parties.
I totally agree. I remember my children diving into my bathtub. They'd hear the water and come running. It got to the point I wanted some alone time! I'd try to sneak off to have a bath simply because I'd get a mommy break, not because I was worried about nakedness. Kids develop modesty on their own schedule. It comes naturally with time.
We showered with our twin Sons up until they were about 3 or 4, but one time my one Son giggled and said "Boy Mom, you sure have a furry pee pee !" That was the end of the showering together as a family.
We showered with our twin Sons up until they were about 3 or 4, but one time my one Son giggled and said "Boy Mom, you sure have a furry pee pee !" That was the end of the showering together as a family.
Why?
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That was the end of the showering together as a family. 
