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I am single, in my early 60s and live in my admittedly stagnant hometown which is suffering from severe brain drain to the nearest major metropolitan city from me because of the lack of culture and jobs that pay more than 25-30K a year even for college graduates and i miss having my adult children and grandkids nearby.
I have 3 adult children, and all of them (and their father) live at least a two hour drive away, and are adamant that they will NEVER come back for any reason whatsoever. I do not have the stamina to make the long drive to visit them as often as i'd like and i feel left out of family life because my only living family who still live in my hometown is my elderly aunt who is in her 80s. I would move to be near them, but i'd feel overwhelmed by the faster pace of life even in the suburbs, even though the COL there is roughly the same as in my hometown.
Move, why not? Faster pace of life? How much time do you spend outside your house? Chances are you're like most folks and spend most of your time inside your own house, living at your own pace. Yeah the roads and stores may be a bit more crowded and seem faster pace, to me, that is a small price to pay to live closer to family if that is what will make you happy. You can always shop and do errands early or late when the crowds are smaller. Anyways, that's my two cents, you can always move back.
See separate households is part of the reasons why America is broke the way it is. I would just get back with the husband and all if that is possible to save money. Look at this way. Who will bury you if the worst comes? Got that spot insured??? In case somebody decides to be cheapo and put you into ashes???? I know it is negative to think that way but
A. Your an woman
B. In your 60's
C. Have issues traveling.
My advice is to avoid signing your rights over to your children, or husband. Becuase it sounds like somebody might throw you into an nursing home one day. AKA like the commercial "A Place for mom" ( A place where corrupt people leave there materialistic loved-ones ). Again I am not saying the worst but again.
A. You really really really really need somebody close to you from the tune of things
B. This just sounds silly the fact that you are alone.
I would just get back with your husband???? if that is possible???
Do all three children live in the same area or are they two hours away in three different directions?
They all live in the same area.
Do you have a chronic health condition?
No. But i'd feel fatigued after making a 24 hour roundtrip at least once a week.
Are you responsible for your aunt's care?
No. She's honestly in better health than i am.
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