Looking for my biological father (child, old, last name, birth)

L.Stiehl17 · 12-13-2008, 04:35 PM

So i have decided I would like to find my biological father. I have never met him. I am 22 years old married with a child of my own. I have some medical conditions that concern me that my mothers side of the family doesnt have. Also i dont know much about why he didnt want to meet me and it would be nice to see what happened and if he does want to know me.

This is about all I know:
His name is Albert, him and my mom met in blackfoot over the summer. She had me may 29, 1989 in Bountiful, Utah. I am a girl and have grown up in boise for most of my life. I was adopted when i was seven, May 2, 1996. He signed the papers but it took forever for him to sign them, i was told because he was running away from paying child support. I dont care what the past is I would just like to know who my dad is, do i have any sibblings, does my family want to know me?

If you know of anything please contact me or if you know of a good way to get information. Email me if you do L.Stiehl17@gmail.com

Susan13202 · 12-13-2008, 05:02 PM

His first name is Albert. What is his last name? You said he signed the papers. Do you have access to those papers as his name should be on them if he signed them. How about your mother? Will she tell you his last name and date of birth?
With just Albert, there is not a lot we can do for you.

L.Stiehl17 · 12-13-2008, 09:07 PM

yes I guess i will have to try and get up the strength to talk to my mom again. i dont have any of the information or even how to go about finding it. Last time I brought it up my mom and adopted dad were really disappointed. So im kind of nervous.

L.Stiehl17 · 12-13-2008, 09:47 PM

on my birth year I meant to put 1986

hcgCali · 12-13-2008, 10:15 PM

Tell them it has nothing to do with your love for them and your gratitude towards your adoptive father for raising you as his own, but a piece of your history is missing and you have a strong internal need to learn of your roots and complete the puzzle of who you are. Good or bad, you just need to know.

Telling you they are disappointed is just their way of manipulating you with guilt. If they do that again, don't let it effect you. Just tell them, "I love you very much, and nothing will ever change that. I hope you love me enough to respect my need to know my whole family history."