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It doesn't bother me that much if someone says "no problem". It's the NEW "your welcome" and people only get mad because it's not what THEY say. Things change, no sense it letting it bother you too much.
I said "You're Welcome!" just yesterday. And I was rather loud about it.
I was leaving a book store. (I should add here that it was about 105 degrees outside.) As I exited the door I saw a family of five coming towards me. They were about 25 feet away. Dad, mom (pushing a stroller) and two kids. So I stood there in the heat and held the door for them. I think I even had a friendly little smile on my face as I stood there, (did I mention it was hot?) waiting for them to come my way and holding the door open for all of them.
Dad went in first. Then the two kids. The mom pushing the stroller. And I held the door for all of them. Like the best doorman you'ld ever see in NYC. Not one of that merry little troop said "Thank you." Not one.
But I said "You're welcome!" in a cheery voice that, hopefully, was loud enough for them to hear.
The funny thing is I'll keep holding doors because that's the way I was raised. Even if the manners of the rest of the world are circling the drain.
Last edited by DewDropInn; 07-06-2010 at 12:03 PM..
I agree with the broader point about a decline in manners. As Ceece said, "no problem" doesn't bother me though.
I tend to greet people if I pass by them at a close distance like on a grocery store aisle. I'm always amazed at how often people will look right at you and not say anything in response to a simple greeting.
Many years ago I had a teacher in the sixth grade who admonished the class for using, "You're Welcome" in response to "Thank You". It was her opinion that "You're Welcome" was inappropriate and should be replaced with something more formal like, "My Pleasure".
That is the response that I grew accustomed to using over the last 50 years or so, and find it personally more acceptable.
I don't know that my sixth grade teacher was correct in her opinion, but it made a lasting impression on me.
I said "You're Welcome!" just yesterday. And I was rather loud about it.
I was leaving a book store. (I should add here that it was about 105 degrees outside.) As I exited the door I saw a family of five coming towards me. They were about 25 feet away. Dad, mom (pushing a stroller) and two kids. So I stood there in the heat and held the door for them. I think I even had a friendly little smile on my face as I stood there, (did I mention it was hot?) waiting for them to come my way and holding the door open for all of them.
Dad went in first. Then the two kids. The mom pushing the stroller. And I held the door for all of them. Like the best doorman you'ld ever see in NYC. Not one of that merry little troop said "Thank you." Not one.
But I said "You're welcome!" in a cheery voice that, hopefully, was loud enough for them to hear.
The funny thing is I'll keep holding doors because that's the way I was raised. Even if the manners of the rest of the world are circling the drain.
The first clue that this family had no concept of manners was the father walking through the door instead of taking it from you and thanking you.
"You are welcome" is a polite acknowledgement of the manners of the person giving thanks. It is never inappropriate.
I said "You're Welcome!" just yesterday. And I was rather loud about it.
I was leaving a book store. (I should add here that it was about 105 degrees outside.) As I exited the door I saw a family of five coming towards me. They were about 25 feet away. Dad, mom (pushing a stroller) and two kids. So I stood there in the heat and held the door for them. I think I even had a friendly little smile on my face as I stood there, (did I mention it was hot?) waiting for them to come my way and holding the door open for all of them.
Dad went in first. Then the two kids. The mom pushing the stroller. And I held the door for all of them. Like the best doorman you'ld ever see in NYC. Not one of that merry little troop said "Thank you." Not one.
But I said "You're welcome!" in a cheery voice that, hopefully, was loud enough for them to hear.
The funny thing is I'll keep holding doors because that's the way I was raised. Even if the manners of the rest of the world are circling the drain.
On a very blustery and chilly Valentine's Day this year, while the wind almost blew all my clothes off; I held open the door to a local restaurant for a woman, her son, and her father (presumably a rancher or cowboy, from his attire).
After dining, I asked the hostess for my check. She told me my meal had been paid for by the rancher folk.
WTH! I could have had a pitcher of Tequila and some dessert had I known earlier.
No problem does bother me if I am at a place of service. If I ask for Tabasco sauce for example, and the response is , "no problem", I am insulted. I DON"T CARE if it is a problem, I want it.
I was in a Chic-Fila and the counter person said "my pleasure". I asked to speak to the manager. When the manager appeared I said how refreshing it was to hear "my pleasure" instead of "no problem".
These places are supposed to be serving the customer not, acting like it is a big deal to serve me.
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