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Back in the day there were night clubs owned by black businessmen. Some nicknamed these clubs the brown bag clubs. To get into the club, the bouncer or doorman would hold a brown paper bag up to your skin, if you were darker than the brown paper bag then you weren't allowed in.
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Originally Posted by residinghere2007
Your in-laws if they are older, may very well have issues with getting dark. Lots of black people have a light skin is better than dark skin attitude. My grandmother and mother are VERY dark. My grandmother especially was teased mercilessly as a child and throughout her life had an issue with being dark and went to great lengths to not get darker or sit in the sun. My mom has this same issue to a lesser degree. She doesn't like to get dark either because she thinks she is dark enough. This sort of attitude about dark black hues is starting to wane but it is still around. But even though my mom doesn't like to get dark in the summer, she thinks she is very beautiful and will tell you that.
Both of them had natural hair and contrary to what people say, in my own experience, natural hair is easier to maintain than relaxed hair. You don't have to go through the relaxer process, you don't even have to comb it if you condition correctly. I only "do" my and my daughter's hair once a week. I don't have to mess with blow dryers or curling irons. It is much easier.
Lastly, what really hurts African women is their hair. The Afro is just a terrible look for a woman. It makes me sad that people are even born that way honestly. It really isn't fair.
Your opinion.
Lots of people (including me and my husband) love our Afro hair. It is the "proof" of blackness as no one else can claim it.
To be honest I feel the same way about light skin and thin lips. Being able to see veins through skin is not a good look.
On the other hand, I've noticed that my Ethiopian relatives have a much more positive outlook on black beauty, which I'm guessing is because they grew up in a totally different environment where black is the norm.
It makes a world of a difference. I am Ghanaian and blue-black (probably the darkest you can get) and I always got plenty of love where I'm from. Dark skin traditionally was preferable. There are stories of white people when they first arrived. People called them monsters because of their long stringy hair and deathly pale (even worse than the Arabs) skin. We thought they would eat us.
Now fast forward a couple hundred years....some West African women are bleaching their skin and plopping wigs on their heads...
The problem with that poster's argument is they're thinking micro while the evolutionary psychologist is talking macro.
Also, if the EP had not interjected color no one would be complaining, ie if he stated, "the more beautiful women tend to have symmetrical faces, well shaped and firm breast and healthy symmetrical waste of good child bearing width." No one would have complained or argued. Now throw in statistics of races and you have to come to the conclusion that one race tends to fit closer into that box while another will be the farthest away.
It leads me to believe he purposely interjected race to gain attention. If you read some of his other articles, some are just as bad while others not so much.
The world has a lot of beautiful women of every race, creed or color. Maybe this guy should have spent more time girl watching than babbling into his PC.
I find this to be very true. My White friends are NEVER satisfied with their weight....EVER. They always "need" to lose another 5 or 10lbs. In their minds, "something" is always wrong with them that they need to "fix".
Something else that I have always been aware of with non-Black women is that they have literally taken the "black women are less attractive" nonsense to heart. I have always had some friends who are non-Black and I have noticed that if I receive more male attention (but especially if the male is their race), it is somehow an "insult" to them (because they are automatically supposed to be more attractive) This scenario has repeated itself an untold number of times starting from high school through college and even now. It's as if the acknowledgment of my attractiveness as a Black woman is an indictment against theirs. Very sad.
When some black women consider things like obesity and unhealthy eating as something to be proud of then it makes perfect sense for a healthy person to see it as an insult.
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