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Of course straight people can go to straight bars.
Back in the late 70s I lived in Allentown, PA. My roommate (a gay man) and I would frequent The Stonewall. We went at least 3 nights a week. We could dance with abandon until the wee hours. There was nothing like it that I have experienced before or since. There was such freedom! As a straight woman, there were many times that I wanted no attention from males that were interested in their latest hook up. I just wanted to dance! The workout was phenomenal!
Never once was I approached by a gay woman. It was as though they instinctively knew that I was straight. Either that or they knew that since I was there with Scott.... and then they knew.
In this setting, I have never seen a more accepting, nonjudgmental group.
Try it with open eyes and an open heart. Could be the most fun you ever had.
LOL. Try being a skinny hairless gay man in a bear bar, or a man over 35 in a twink bar, or going to a bar in LA and not having a perfect body, etc. etc. etc.
True, I guess every group has its judgments! But I was mostly referring to people judging you for being gay, which hopefully doesn't happen in a gay bar.
Why the hell would you want to go to a gay bar if you're straight? I'll settle for a regular bar.
As I said before, why not? Unless your SOLE purpose for going to a bar is to get laid (which it is for some people), there's no reason to avoid the gay bars... actually, if you're a straight man your odds might even be better there.
It proves that you're with it, that you're tolerant. A woman I used to work with is straight and would go with her lesbian friends and then she would out anyone from work that she happened to see there.
Sounds like your old co-worker was a b----, so please don't judge us all (straight women) based on her! The majority of gay clubs I've been to were male-dominant, and I certainly didn't go to prove anything about my "tolerance." About half of my friends, especially when I was living in SF, are gay... and since I'm not much of a bar person myself, I let them choose where we go. Simple as that, and here in the Bay Area there's no need to prove tolerance - it's just assumed.
This is stereotyping. To really blow your mind, I worked in a "straight" bar, if you want to call it that. We had many theme nights and one of them was "Drag Night" but it wasn't what one would call a "gay" bar. It was a bar. We welcomed everyone. Same with gay bars.
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I've been a few times with friends. Really, it's no big deal, just like any other bar/club. I guess at first there is the curiosity factor, you're likely to see some same-sex making out.etc, and if you're a man there's a fairly good chance you'll get hit on. For me it was just a slap on the ass, which I really didn't mind, but other than that I haven't been approached or given any more attention than in a straight place.
I've been a few times with friends. Really, it's no big deal, just like any other bar/club. I guess at first there is the curiosity factor, you're likely to see some same-sex making out.etc, and if you're a man there's a fairly good chance you'll get hit on. For me it was just a slap on the ass, which I really didn't mind, but other than that I haven't been approached or given any more attention than in a straight place.
Meh, I don't know about that.
I have a gay friend in Racine, and if we go to a LGBT nightclub together, neither of us get hit upon. I would suppose if a person becomes a regular and frequents a nightclub and if conversations begin with the bar tender, bartenders are pretty good gatherers of 411, and sometimes the 411 is passed onto other patrons. Once people find out your status, like if you're gay, str8, single, married, or whatever, getting hit on might happen.
I went to a halloween party at a LGBT club and I got a pinch on my bottom, I turned around and received a smile. It's all harmless fun, IMO.
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Most gays I know look and talk straight
