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in this nation. To me this is a result of the consumerist, selfish mindset that has permeated this nation. Please spare me the PC all races do this crapola. Ive seen the numbers and more whites throw their parents in nursing homes than do hispanics, blacks, and Asians. What a dirtbag mentality. The people who have given you life and brought you into this world, raised you and you cant be bothered with them? I am white, but I'll call out my own race when I have to and call a spade a spade. When it comes to how to respect your elders and treat your parents I really admire as we all should the Asians and Indians.
Do you have any actual links to back this up, or is this your opinion?
Do you have any idea what it takes to care for a person with chronic and severe medical issues, or dementia? There is a point where your best efforts aren't enough to properly care for a loved one.
We (my siblings and I ) decided to admit our mother to hospice care because she needed round the clock supportive care that none of us could provide. They made her comfortable in her last days, and one of us was there daily to visit her.
Maybe you should walk a while in a caregiver's shoes before you make such a blanket statement.
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Sometimes a nursing home is better. People seem to think that taking care of the sick and elderly is EASY! It's not! Some things should be left to professionals.
in this nation. To me this is a result of the consumerist, selfish mindset that has permeated this nation. Please spare me the PC all races do this crapola. Ive seen the numbers and more whites throw their parents in nursing homes than do hispanics, blacks, and Asians. What a dirtbag mentality. The people who have given you life and brought you into this world, raised you and you cant be bothered with them? I am white, but I'll call out my own race when I have to and call a spade a spade. When it comes to how to respect your elders and treat your parents I really admire as we all should the Asians and Indians.
Clueless is the word that comes to mind. Or perhaps judgmental and assumptive. Either way, you need to backup the above cr*p with something substantive. Perhaps a nice peer-reviewed study that supports your claims?
04-11-2013, 09:23 AM
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The idea that people are just abandoning their parents (does taking your child to the hospital when necessary also count as abandonment? ) and shirking their responsibilities is pretty absurd. Sure some people do that. But many people are also just doing what they think is best. If you're working full time, it's not really feasible to take care of parents who require a lot of attention. It's also not really possible to provide much direct care if there's a large geographic separation.
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Do you have any actual links to back this up, or is this your opinion
My wife took care of her mother to the bitter end. She allowed her to stay in her home and made a huge effort to support the old lady. I took care of her dying father personally nursing him in our home...I nursed my dying dad in my childhood home when I was only 17...MY mother had kidney failure and I took the time to keep her going as long as possible. People have to do their duty...It is not pleasant and it is demanding..to abandon a sick adult is no different than abandoning a child. Yes it is mostly "white" culture that does this...not all whites are white....if you know what I mean. Some of us have soul and are old school who practice loyalty.
Do you have any actual links to back this up, or is this your opinion?
Do you have any idea what it takes to care for a person with chronic and severe medical issues, or dementia? There is a point where your best efforts aren't enough to properly care for a loved one.
I agree. The original post is just ignorant, inflammatory trolling by people who have no idea what it's like to be blowing out your retirement account while caring for ailing parents and putting children through college and working full time.
Ignorance is bliss OP, you'll get your turn in life and then you'll get to listen to silly nitwits make stupid comments.
Clueless is the word that comes to mind. Or perhaps judgmental and assumptive. Either way, you need to backup the above cr*p with something substantive. Perhaps a nice peer-reviewed study that supports your claims?
Attack the messenger when it hits a little close to home. Sorry charlie, I saw my parents and their siblings tend for and care my grandparents in their elder years putting their parents before themselves because they wanted to, even though it made things inconvenient for them. Me and my siblings will do the same. You can hire hospice like care to come to the house for the same price if not less than sending your parents away to the glue factory. Their is a dignity and honor in spending time with those who raised you, and allowing them to live their elder years in their homes. To each their own. I love all the excuse making here. It's just a proxy for the selfish, excuse making mindset that has permeated this nation. Again.. hang out with Asians and Indians. See how they do it. Are they somehow immune to the same issues that the weak minded here seem to be chirping about? This dependence on others in society who arent family members and the excuse making really gets old in this country!
My wife took care of her mother to the bitter end. She allowed her to stay in her home and made a huge effort to support the old lady. I took care of her dying father personally nursing him in our home...I nursed my dying dad in my childhood home when I was only 17...MY mother had kidney failure and I took the time to keep her going as long as possible. People have to do their duty...It is not pleasant and it is demanding..to abandon a sick adult is no different than abandoning a child. Yes it is mostly "white" culture that does this...not all whites are white....if you know what I mean. Some of us have soul and are old school who practice loyalty.
I really admire you! You are an example of a good son and loyal person!
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) and shirking their responsibilities is pretty absurd. Sure some people do that. But many people are also just doing what they think is best. If you're working full time, it's not really feasible to take care of parents who require a lot of attention. It's also not really possible to provide much direct care if there's a large geographic separation.
